Injuries at pre-school

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Our DS is our eldest, we’ve never had to deal with this before so gauging a ‘proper’ reaction from others please as my protective angry mother instinct obviously isn’t the most appropriate for good communication; trying to take a step back and compose a response.

DS is 3 and at pre-school within his nursery. Another boy his age is repeatedly lashing out at DS when he can’t get his own way and apparently, so pre-school have told us tonight, it’s not just DS, it’s other children too.

He has a scar on his face off one incident with this child, only last week came home with a deep scratch on his nose that pre-school didn’t seem to be aware of which DS told us this child had done (without any prompting from us), DH witnessed this child snatch a toy from DS at pick up time and today, we have an accident form as DS was on a bike this child wanted so the child resorted to biting him on the arm which has marked him. The accident form doesn’t state this child bit DS, just that another child wanted the bike, DS was checked and he had a wet patch on his top and he had a mark but pre-school have confirmed verbally.

Now I know all children have their moments; they’re quick and have big emotions but nevertheless, shouldn’t a child repeatedly attacking others be raising concerns with the pre-school to do more? All pre-school say is that they’re monitoring it. I could understand this if this was a first incident or he wasn’t hurting other children too but clearly, his behaviour is a problem.

I have seen this child with his mother on a couple of occasions - stay and play sessions and pick up time. On these occasions I have seen myself how he tantrums the minute he can’t immediately have something he wants and his mum just stands there and does nothing.

Aside from the option of just accepting this and hoping pre-school will deal with it, which I’m not too confident of, is there any other way to raise concerns and ask for more reassurances DS will be safer from this child without allowing my anger to surface and become an unfavourable parent?!

They told you it’s other children too? It’s almost like they are trying to downplay it but in my view that makes it even worse.

They know this child does this so they should have someone watching him at all times. I would be very unhappy with the nursery if this was my child.

A similar thing happened when my son went to nursery. He was only a baby and when I went to pick him up I was warned before I saw him that an incident had occurred. It turned out that when he was sleeping in a bouncer chair an older child came over and scratched him all over his face. No one at the nursery was supervising when this happened. His face had deep scratches all over it. It looked awful and I burst into tears when I saw him. It’s the nursery’s fault and they need to have an action plan in place to ensure this does not happen again.