Am I being paranoid

[LondonMum1979A]

I’ll keep it short.
Yesterday took DD who is 5 to all-class party.
She’s particularly close to one girl and I like her Mum.
However, yesterday this little girl decided not just to leave my DD out but actively tell her to ‘go away’.
This obviously upset DD who said she wanted to leave. I tried to encourage her to stay and play with others but she was adamant and TBH I didn’t blame her.

While I was trying to talk her round other little girl’s Mum asked what was wrong and I hold my hands up I was maybe a little dismissive and didn’t want to cause her scene.
She asked my DD directly if she should talk to her daughter on her behalf but I interjected and said not to worry. I don’t want DD or anyone else to have to beg people to be nice to her.
So we left. I since messaged this Mum a few times explaining that my DD was upset at being left out and that in turn had upset me but she’s not replied at all despite me saying that I hoped I’d not offended her.
I don’t want any ill feeling but can’t help thinking she’s either just ignoring me or is really annoyed with me.

I probably will see her at drop off tomorrow but don’t want any issues.
Any ideas?

Honestly I think, dear L@LondonMum1979A ,
and I do hope you won't be offended if I do say so, the best thing would have been if you had just stayed out of the whole thing and said or done absolutely nothing.

By leaving early in a big huff with your DC you were actually teaching her that it is a good thing to be reactive to other people's behavior. Whereas in reality it would be better to demonstrate to your child that we can rise above other people's poor behavior by ignoring it and carrying on and not take it personally. What you did was to confirm to your daughter that she in fact should be offended and take her friend's behavior as a personal insult- which was not at all necessarily the case.

Maybe you should (relax!) back off a bit yourself at what is a children's party - a social interaction learning experience -whereby your child may learn from her own experience. And then next time you won't embarrass yourself by trying to backtrack for your own behavior by sending numerous confounding messages and outrageously imply that the other mother was somehow out of line.

Sorry OP , this will probably be difficult for you to digest, but like a PP explained , this is to give you another perspective. In the end, it is nothing to lose sleep over.

Excellent advice