Getting so angry with my 1 year old

[losingmyfuckinmind]

Actually feel like I'm going insane. She's such a good baby but of a night she just screams in my fucking ear all night for hours and hours and I'm really struggling to cope. Feel myself getting so angry. This morning I've just had to come downstairs and put her on her play mat and walk away from her because I can't bear to be around her. Now I feel so guilty watching her sit there playing with her toys but I don't understand why she does this. I can't think of any reason why she would just cry and cry all night, because when/ if I get up with her she's fine. I know this is probably just a phase but I've never struggled with this as much as I am right now

Just remembered that good old sleep regressions are a thing. That explains it at least

How long has it been going on for? Have you tried giving pain relief? Sometimes their ears and teeth hurt more lying down than when they're up in the daytime. Could be a sleep regression but the fact she's screaming rather than just awake and whining/playing/wanting to get up makes me think it could be an actual issue around pain or discomfort.

Ear infection hurts more when lying down?

Where is dad? Sounds like you need a break!

She doesn't have any symptoms of ear infection, no temperature etc and not touching her ears at all. I gave her some calpol before bed last night but she was still the same. She's never been a good sleeper but she doesn't usually cry as much/ as loud as she has been the last few days

@Perfect28 haha! Don't get me started. I'm a single mum

There's a reason sleep deprivation is used to torture people!

Can you take her into your bed? Mine always slept well when snuggled with me (and I actually enjoy it too)

She does sleep in my bed! We've always coslept. Which makes the crying worse cause it's right in my ear hole

You poor thing ... it must be driving you nuts. Honest truly, this will pass.

Thank you for all the replies. I'm due on as well which doesn't help I'm like a pressure cooker at the moment lol. Think I just needed to vent this morning, first time since she was born I feel like a bit of failure

It's even harder at night, so I feel your pain. I co-slept with my daughter until she suddenly started wiggling and crying. We had a few nights of hell before I tried her in her cot. Turns out she wanted to sleep on her tummy - bum in the air - and needed space to do that. We still co-sleep occasionally but far less more and it's better for her. Perhaps that's something you could try?
Sleep regressions are also a big thing though! They usually coincide with a big learning jump so at least you could see a benefit to it. Teeth also caused issues at that age - often before you see anything as they move around in the gums before coming through. I used an amber bracelet on her ankle which I found helped.
Best of luck!

😂 this explains it too!!

@thirstybutlazy god didn't even think of teething, could be teething. I haven't heard of those bracelets I'm gonna get one

My little boys teething always bothered him at night never in the day. We used teething granules and they are the magic dust for babies teething, literally saved my life! Also, we found that although we didn't co-sleep my son had a small cot in our room (long baby) and us snoring/sleep talking at night kept him stirring. Once we put him in his own room he settled quicker and for longer because he was just annoyed at us disturbing him (oooops) if that helps?

@xLMCx yes I've got those teething granules they're actually magic. Idk how she'd get on with a cot, we do actually have a next to me cot but it's never gone well so I've kind of given up on it

She's also gone off her food she's not eating half as much as she usually does so not sure what that's about either

I would try her in a cot in her own room at 12 months. You might both get a better sleep!!! good luck x

Have you tried putting her down in the cot when she is unsettled? As my DD1 loved cosleeping and being close all the time, but DD2 comes in my bed in the night for a cuddle and a feed then usually wriggles and grizzles wanting to be put back in her cot?

Suppose I could give it a try

She needs to be in her cot in her own space. It is worth a try!!

Tbh I do think it's all about just trying different things because you are still both learning about each other so try not to feel defeated if you can.

If she has gone off her food I would usually go to tummy ache but I'm your OP you said that you gave her Calpol so that would usually sort it.

Ohhh we had to use one of the pop up travel cots and put him at the other corner of the room but that still didn't work 🤣

Like you said earlier could just be sleep regression too, I used to hate them just because of this reason 😔

If it's just at night, is the room to light/dark for her? Too cool or too warm? She might have her own preferences too! It's hard though because they cannot communicate them at this age bless them!

You'll get through this OP!

If she's off her food and in pain at night it's probably teething?

But when DS was that age he had an ear infection which I didn't know about until his ear drum burst. He was a bit miserable but no temperature, no ear pulling. I felt terrible. Might be worth getting GP to have a look?

Is she teething, in pain. My kid used to scream. Sometimes it's hard. It shouldn't last long, babies grow at different stages. Maybe take her to a music group for extra stimulation?