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Daughters friends mum told my daughter to go away

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LaserEnvy · 05/05/2023 19:31

I am heartbroken for my daughter. My daughter never used to play out in the street with friends but lately she has been playing with a little girl who is our neighbour. The little girl introduced my daughter to her friend who lives over the road - let’s call her Amy. My daughter goes to a different school to the other two girls but her and Amy really hit it off and my daughter was saying that is her best friend and they seemed to get along so well together.

The other week my daughter was riding her bike and has ridden across the road with Amy and her sister following her, Amy’s mum shouted at my daughter which I understand as she knows that is unacceptable to be riding her bike on across the road. I was at my sons parents evening and my mother in law who was watching her did not actually see this happen but after this incident she came back into the house. The following day Amy’s mum approached me and told me what had happened and said that due to this her daughter was not allowed her bike anymore. I apologised sincerely and I explained to my daughter if she wanted to play with Amy then she would have to leave her bike at home to which she agreed.

My daughter tried to speak to Amy on several occasions asking if she could play with her to which my daughter was told no as Amy said she had to go inside soon, this was not the case. Today my daughter went to Amy’s house and asked if she wanted to play, Amy told her no she can’t play with her anymore and then Amy’s mum told my daughter to go away. I am so heartbroken for my daughter and I don’t just want to go over to speak to Amy’s mum as I don’t want to seem hostile. I am just so sad for my daughter I could cry.

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Motnight · 05/05/2023 19:35

How old are the girls? My immediate thought is that your dd has been a bit of a pain asking her friend to play too often. But I could be wrong!

Skybluepinky · 05/05/2023 19:56

Sounds like yr daughter has been annoying the neighbours, probably best she keeps away and learns not to do things that annoy others.

Guavafish1 · 05/05/2023 20:10

Life lessons... teach her to brush it off and move on... these people mean nothing to her and she'll make new friends

Watchthedoormat · 05/05/2023 20:18

It doesn't sound like Amy's mum likes her DD playing out in the street and across roads etc.
Are your DD and Amy the same age?

philautia · 05/05/2023 20:53

I think it sounds like the Mum was having a bad day and your daughter has been quite annoying.

Not the same at all but there are three children in my street who try to play with my daughter in our front garden, all fine. However my daughter only wants to do this once a week or so, but they come to the house multiple times a night and when I answer the door, one of them puts a foot in so I can't get rid of them. They want to come in the house, they want to go into our (very fun) back garden. I say no, they stand there staring at me.

This has been going on for a while but last month I'd had a bad day and I asked the one with the wandering foot to remove it and she wouldn't. So I knelt down in front of them and said "go and play in your own gardens. You are not coming into our house, please leave now."

They will hopefully have told their parents and haven't been back for a while thankfully. I feel not at all guilty! Their parents have stopped making small talk with me which is another positive.

Thepossibility · 05/05/2023 21:13

I'm sure she has her reasons.
We are annoyed at one of my DS neighbourhood friends at the moment.
When we hear them playing he is quite bossy and overbearing with the other kids.
And recently he has been making trouble with older kids that we don't want out kid involved in.
Amy's mum will be trying to do what is right by her own family.
If you are very worried you could go have a chat with her and ask if something has happened with the girls, but don't be upset until you have all the facts.

Orio2023 · 27/01/2024 21:13

It’s because she rode her bike into the road and her friends followed.

sonjadog · 27/01/2024 21:23

Has your daughter been there a lot? Something similar has happened with my next door neighbour. The Mum told another local child that they couldn’t play with her child anymore and the child was very upset, but the child was calling every day at all hours and making a huge pest of herself. It couldn’t go on.

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