I’ve posted about my ex before, we have 4 children oldest is autistic and has some quite extreme challenging behaviour. Ex barely bothers with contact seeing them as and when he feels like it, he regularly goes a long time between contact and never has them overnight. Recently he has been back in contact and has come to my house to see them, he will take them out but only to the local park next to my house. It was our youngest child’s birthday and he has asked to take them to the cinema this weekend which I said is ok but he is asking if our oldest will “cope with it” and hinting at not wanting to take her. I don’t want her being treated differently from the other children and she will want to go. My opinion is the he needs to learn to manage her behaviour just like I have, I don’t have the luxury of leaving her with anyone and only taking my “easy” children. She comes everywhere with me, everywhere. I have taken her to the cinema and I just deal with any behaviour if (or when) it arises. Otherwise we would be prisoners in our own home never able to go anywhere. I posted on another group for advice but got a few people saying how I should let him take them separately but his contact is so sporadic I know he will never do that he just won’t bother again until we have forgot about it, or that if he can’t manage them I should ho along with them 🙄 if only I had a built in helper to come along with me! How will he ever learn to manage them if he has never been given the opportunity and he always has a helper along the way? Apparently mums cope better than dads? And I had advice from people who aren’t single parents telling me they wouldn’t be able to manage their children out alone either, well yes you can say that if you have a partner but when you’ve been left with no choice you just deal with it.