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Teens and relationships

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Isthisreallytrue12 · 04/05/2023 23:47

From reading posts on here, it seems that most parents know if their son /daughter is having sex. I’m not sure my teen would tell me what stage his relationship has got to (he’s 17)! Should I be asking? Any thoughts?

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takealettermsjones · 05/05/2023 05:29

Why do you need to know?

Obviously you need to teach him about safety etc, but surely that's already happened regardless. I'm not sure what good having the detail would do 🤷🏻‍♀️

Slavica · 05/05/2023 07:16

I agree with @takealettermsjones . For my DD, I will facilitate a gynecologist appointment fairly soon and we have been talking about consent and protection for a while now. However, I don't expect her to tell me when she starts having sex, though I hope they take it slowly and wait a while still. If you had sex while still living with your parents, did you tell them? I certainly didn't - my mom found out when she asked me whether I need help with contraception and I told her we're all set. If you ask your son, he might answer truthfully or not.
I would guess that many parents who do know find out when they come across condoms/pills or hear the couple (eek).

lljkk · 05/05/2023 07:41

are you american, Slavica? Why does your daughter need to see a gynae, is she ill?

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Slavica · 05/05/2023 08:56

@lljkk , no, not American, but living in a different European country where contraception advice and prescription is handled by gynecologists. The GPs don't deal with this at all here. Sexual health clinics are mostly there for STD prevention and they don't write prescriptions, and there are no free condoms to be had at all.

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Isthisreallytrue12 · 05/05/2023 09:00

@takealettermsjones its not that I want detail at all!!! Quite the opposite really. Just wondered if it was normal that so many seem to announce it to their parents! I’ve obviously had general chats with him about safety, respect and consent but no idea what stage his current relationship is at - bern together nearly 6 months.

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mumonthehill · 05/05/2023 09:03

No i never asked ds if he had had sex. But I was very open with conversations around safe sex. I would be quite breezy about it so say things like, I hope you are both being sensible, I am not ready to be a granny yet! He told me that his girlfriend was taking contraceptives and i made sure he knew it was his responsibility too.

ItWasntMyFault · 05/05/2023 12:10

I just told DS that consent is absolutely essential and underage sex is illegal which means that under 16s legally cannot give consent.
He's now 19 had has his girlfriend stay over frequently but I'm ok with that.

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