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Baby hurt himself and I feel like it was my fault, feel awful

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LlamaFace19 · 04/05/2023 22:43

Hi all. DS is 10 months old and pulling to stand, cruising etc. He hurt himself today (not badly, he's okay) and I feel like it was totally my own fault 😭

So after doing some ironing I put the iron away and then folded up the ironing board and stood it up behind the living room door, which is almost always left open (we live in a flat that has quite limited storage). A little while later the doorbell went, so I left DS in the living room for no more than 20 seconds to see who it was. To be honest I completely forgot the ironing board was behind the door and I assumed DS would be fine as the rest of the room was baby proofed. Lo and behold I hear a bang and then an almighty cry 😭 DS had crawled over to the ironing board and pulled the bloody thing down on himself 😭 it hit him on his head/face and gave him a little red mark on his, forehead and a bloody nose 😭 he screamed the house down for about 5 minutes but then happily went back to playing.

I did panic and call 111 in tears and they were very reassuring, just said to keep an eye on him for any vomiting, lethargy etc. DS has been his totally normal self, chatting and playing, eating etc. He's gone to bed normal time and is sleeping soundly (though I keep checking on him!). I'm now sure he's fine but I feel so horrifically guilty. I've been crying on and off since it happened, more than DS did WHEN it happened! I feel like it's totally my fault, DS could have been seriously injured and it would have been my fault. DH keeps telling me not to dwell, to just thank my lucky stars DS is fine and move on from it. But I feel like the world's worst mother.

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Crossornot · 04/05/2023 22:55

It’s EXTREMELY difficult to watch a young child every second of the day. It was an accident and you mustn’t be too hard on yourself. You’ll feel better tomorrow when he’s up for the day and scampering around!

Imperialleathers · 04/05/2023 22:58

It's happened to all of us, I feel asleep on the sofa with my daughter when she was about 5 months old and woke up to an almighty bang. She landed face first. I took her to A&E, she was absolutely fine. I was terrified id given her brain damage. She's now 7 and absolutely fine. You now know next time not to leave him alone even if it was for 20 seconds, you live and you learn. Don't worry, your baby will be fine.

LemonSwan · 04/05/2023 23:02

Omg their a nightmare for that at this age. Honestly he will do similar in a completely empty room at some point in the next couple of months. Just faceplant the floor, or the door, or the wall. I literally got to the point where I built a padded cage.

Luredbyapomegranate · 04/05/2023 23:04

Honestly something like that has happened to everyone. They are programmed to explore and sometimes it bites them. If you never took your eye off you’d be an overprotective mad woman which would be much worse for him.

Wait till he can get up a climbing frame / ride a bike / climb trees…

Heidi1978 · 05/05/2023 01:19

My little one pulled the fire guard onto herself while I was in the room. It’s fixed to the wall now!
she also pulled a kitchen stool onto herself. It lives up high now. Ironically
i left her in the living room several times to get the door, grab something from kitchen etc always been fine, until one day she closes the living room door on me! It opens onto the room so i was worried about squashing her toes and she was so upset 😭 it’s glass so she could see me and couldn’t understand why she couldn’t get to me. I managed to open the door a crack and threw some breadsticks into the room to try and get her away from the door 😂 it worked eventually but that was a lesson learnt!
honestly don’t worry. I keep learning as I go along. But babies and toddlers and kids of any age find a way of doing something to freak us out. It’s not a fault of ours, just curious minds and we learn along the way. Go easy on yourself
the most upset I ever was, was when my baby was a newborn and I accidentally whacked her in the face trying to adjust her car seat buckle. I cried way more than she did!
I think she’s pretty tough 😂

DragonbornMum · 05/05/2023 08:46

We've all been there! Having a mobile baby is a shock to the system. Don't dwell on the past; all you can do is try and avoid it happening again. Babies are going to have a few cuts and bruises as they grow up

Is your flat baby proofed? Now that the baby is mobile, this is extra important! Put away absolutely everything that could cause an injury. Babies are just extra determined to hurt themselves sometimes!

FartSock5000 · 05/05/2023 10:28

@LlamaFace19 you are a GOOD Mum. You know how I know this? You immediately accepted blame, soothed your baby and called for medical advice. You did everything right.

These things can and do happen. It's such a shock, especially to us mums who are extra careful but accidents are normal and you should try your best to ease the guilt you are feeling.

Big hugs to you, poppet. You keep doing what you are doing and don't let this one off accident knock your confidence.

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