40 in November with 5yr old...would you have a second?

[SlB09]

Child nearly 6 so would mean almost 7yr age gap. Obviously my age a factor.....would you go for a second or try and be happy with your special only?

I’m not sure anyone can really answer that, but if you want another, I’m not sure why you wouldn’t give it a go?

I think if you want a second then I’d certainly try.

The age gap wouldn’t bother me.

I would try for a second! If you didn’t you may regret it later. If it doesn’t work you know you tried and then you can be happy with your very special only child.

It sounds like you want another one... I've just had a second with a smaller age gap and really enjoying it. My experience though is that I was the older child with a 6.5 year age gap to my sibling. Im really glad I have a sibling despite the big age gap. There was never really any fights or jealousy because we were never in the same stage of life but I enjoyed mothering him and playing with him and as adults we've been able to get closer. I've been able to have my children quite close together, and I wanted this because I do feel there were times when there was quite a bit of distance between me and my brother. However, I'd rather I had a sibling than none and I never felt like he got in the way or made my life harder. I've found having my second child easier than that first as I am more relaxed and have more perspective on things. I can imagine it might be more of a shock with a bigger gap though. I wouldn't mind a third but I think the practical of money, space etc will prevent it.

My oldest is 5 years older than my youngest and I was 40 when I had the youngest. They are good little pals- DS1 looks after him and helps him (as well as being drivenmad by him at times) Ds2 thinks DS1 is a hero to be looked up to. 😁

In my experience, this has been a wonderful age gap.

Would I? No chance. I love having an only, I love the fact that I'm nearly 50 as she turns 18 so we start our next chapters together. I love that my friends are in the same position so I've got a great social life without young kids to factor in.
But I'm not you. If my reasons are not your reasons, go for it.

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Hi @SlB09 i would have a second one x
I had my baby at 41 years old.

Thanks everyone! I expected lots of no don't do it 😂

Absolutely. Get going.

If you want another, then defo go try for it. The age gap and your age (the latter up to a point, and 40 ain't it) don't matter and will iron themselves out. I'm expecting my third at 41 and am seriously thinking of trying for a fourth.
If you want a second, at least give it your all trying. All the best x