BIL plays rough with newborn (throwing in air!) - How do I tell Sis she needs to stop him??

[jaclynb]

That's it really. My niece is 6 weeks and he throws her in the air like you would a 2 yr old for fun! He also doesn't support her head when holding her.
I know that i need to get him to stop but how can i do it without really offending my sis?

yes, please, please do pursue this, jaclyn. i'm not one for the over-dramatics, but this 'horseplay" could seriously injure your neice or, god forbid, even worse.

When they ring back i'm going to say i wa slooking on internet and found an article about not throwing babies like that. Now having awful thoughts that the're not in cos the're in hospital cos they've hurt the baby

they not have mobiles?

you ahve done the right thing, it is hard to know where to draw the line, and where it becomes interfering, but doing something potentally lethal certainly needs addressing

My sis mobile is switched off. Left a message on that awsell!

Still no reply

Stepfordwife, not all teenagers have an apalling lack of education

I should think they won't be too pleased that you have an opinion on their parenting, but if you don't say anything you will regret it.

show them this

i'm so sorry, wall of silence, i know first-hand not all teenagers have lack of education or are poor parents and would be (and have been) the first to defend young parents.

but i take your point and apologise that it could (unintentionally) be taken that way. in hindsight, should have thought that post through properly. tbh, was just so shocked, it was a kneejerk explantion some teenagers are uninformed as are some older parents.

I've left another message. Will let you know when i hear from my sis.

i hope they ;isten jaclyn couldnt believe it when you asked on the other thread tbh

Ok, Spoke to sis and she was actually ok. She said she hadn't realised that it was dangreous. Think she's going to tell her husband to not do it again.

phew! well done, Jaclyn, tricky conversation to have.

Well done for tackling this.

great, well done for having the courage to say something.

well done maybe they should visit mn too

sis has texted m eto say shes spoken to her husband and that he hadn' realised it could be so dangerauos.
They've promised they'll never do it again which is great. They're really lovely and i felt so bad for having to tell them they were dpoing something really bad but i'm really glad i did. Thanks to everyone for your help and support!

that's great, jaclyn.
so glad they took it positively
and well done for saying something
bet you feel so much better now
you're a fantastic auntie

jaclynb, you may well have saved that baby from serious injury.
Well done

I'd try to keep an eye on them if I were you.
If they didn't realise that tossing a newborn into the air could be dangerous, what else might they do?

well done jaclyn!!!

I went cold reading this thread (which is pretty hard considering it is 35 degrees outside) but am relieved to read that you spoke to them jaclyn - bloody WELL DONE!
You have averted what could have been the most awful tragedy ...

So glad to hear that they have listened to you! Well done for saying something.