Advice needed

[Katekate1991]

I dont even know where to begin. I have signed up here now because im desperate, and as much as it may help I cant afford a therapist. When I was about three months or so in my pregnancy my daughters father become acting strange he was jealous he couldn't stand anyone talking about my pregnancy. Then he started saying things and acting like he was the one who was pregnant even to the point of putting his hands near his stomach ( something he never did before) he couldnt stand my breastfeeding, he has said some odd things including he has always wanted to get pregnant which is apparently sarcasm. Now I keep hearing him call himself mummy? He has took my pregnancy from me my daughter is nearly 18 months he has ruined all this time for me. I keep telling him its wrong and messed up he will not listen. He gets nasty and aggressive he says its in my head.

That is strange behaviour if it was meant in a serious way. Are you still together?

No I cant stand him. I actually hate him. He ruined my pregnancy now calling himself mummy its to much. He wont stop, i say its wrong and its messed up. He keeps saying to me its in your head your miss hearing, there is nothing wrong with my hearing also i wouldnt miss hear that one word he says it a lot as well. This is taking over mylife. I posed this out of desperation i cant afford a therapist. When i say why have you called yourself mummy your not her mum i am he gets really nasty. A few days ago he pushed me in to the fridge and he has bruised my arm. Calls me nasty names as well. I just want him to stop calling himself mummy. And he has made our friends believe I went mad when I was pregnant so no one believes me.

Do your friends not know your side? It sounds like he is the one that needs therapy. If you're not together, how did the fridge incident happen?

Because he lives in my house, we have separate lives. He is living with me until he finds somewhere. So its a crap situation.

I dont leave my daughter with him, he still has the nerve to call himself mummy even infront of me then denny's it. He knows heecan get away with it because of how crazy it sounds. I feel like he has the upper hand here.

One time he made a comment when i was talking about hospitals i wanted to give birth in then he made a odd comment back he goes im not going there to give birth. On top of all the other odd stuff he has said as well. He couldn't bare me physically carrying our daughter, its like he was pretending it was him.

Please speak to your Health Visitor or a GP asap. It seems that your DP might need psychiatric help so that it doesn't get out of control. Yours and your daughter's safety might be at stake here.

Every time i have said I'm going to tell someone he has always said that they will just think that I'm crazy because no dads call themselves mums but he is going round calling himself mummy. That is the first time he has put his hands on me like that. He has always got verbally nasty. He used to cross dress way before i got with him and didnt know about it i cant help but wonder if he is pretending to be a women and our daughters mum?

He may well be confused about gender identity or something, but what actually matters most right now is that he assaulted you. Get him out of your house!

He is over my dead body will he live here forever. I just want him to STOP calling himself mummy. Its messed up.