Post day 1 potty training- please give me a boost

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I've just put DD 2.10yrs to bed after day 1 of potty training and I am FRAZZLED.

Over the course of the day we've gone through 4 sets of pants- we've gone through
It all, from refusal to sit on the potty every 30 minutes and then wetting herself 5 mins later this morning, to starting to wee and putting herself on the potty for the final few dribbles, to telling me she was going but remaining statue still then me lifting her to the potty in time.

My DH thinks it's been a disaster and that she isn't ready but I can't help thinking the fact that we've managed to get at least some wee in the potty on day 1 isn't a complete disaster? She was so proud of herself when she sat on the potty herself and added a sticker to her chart.

Please can anymore give me a boost and tell me to keep going?! The idea of another day like tomorrow makes me want to cry 😆

** Also, the reason we are using pants from the get go is she will be at nursery from thurs onwards and they said she has to wear pants and can't be naked under a dress so I didn't want to confuse by starting naked then adding pants in that soon with a different environment too. Is this the right approach? I don't know!

She's obviously not ready. You don't really need to train them. They pick it up when the time is right for them.

Keep going. My first day was similar but I was fine 2 days later. Just keep putting her on potty and then giving a big fuss/some sort of reward if she hits the spot.

Sounds pretty encouraging for day one. I’d say a day one success is them agreeing to sit on the potty some of the time. That’s it. So I would definitely keep going.

@boating32 thanks so much for this, just what I wanted to hear! We've got a sticker chart and I'm giving them out every time she sits on the potty!

How often would you say put them on the potty? We started with every 20 minutes this morning but nothing was happening!

I would go naked for a couple of days and then introduce pants - worked for us!

Well we’re also potty training 23 mo DS today.

Nursery mentioned at pick up on Friday ‘oh btw we’ve had a sickness bug going round’. Que diarrhoea starting today. We’ve had 10s of poos. Only 3 were on the floor! Which I think is pretty great. But it has been so so full on.

I’d really recommend going no pants to help them get the hang of it. We followed the method of moving him to the potty when he starts weeing/pooing the first few times. Or telling him he needs to go on it when we see his potty dance (signs that we’ve worked out he does when he needs to go) seems to be working so far. After the first few of each they’ve all been in the potty.

On the no pants, DS is back at nursery on Tuesday, we don’t have any days in addition to the bank holidays off work. I think we’ll start him with pants on Monday but I think by then we’ll hopefully be over the main hill.

Anyway keep going, a lot happens with their brains overnight, tomorrow is a new day!

That sounds pretty good for day 1 OP! Hang in there, she'll figure it out.

We have only put him on the potty when he shows a sign of needing to go or after his nap.

I think that sounds great for a day one! Keep going!

I think that sounds good too! Keep going for a few days at least, especially if she is keen.

We trained recently and DS is similar age. Day one we tried to sit him on the potty every hour or so but didn't push it when he didn't want to. He did every single wee of the day in his trousers (and was upset each time). Cleaned him, said no worries, next time you can go on the potty etc. Very last wee of the day he said he needed the potty after peeing his pants, which was his first reference to asking for the potty so he clearly finally made the link. Day 2, he was much more willing to sit on the potty, and didn't have any accidents! He went back to nursery on day 3 and that week he had 2 accidents a day at nursery every day that week, but the rest all in the potty (they had a few other kids training too and think they were copying each other!) Following week he was down to 1ish accident per day at nursery, and week 3 it seemed to really click in place and he was actually asking to go to the toilet and now we are 5/6 weeks in and he seems to have it more or less nailed bar the odd accident here or there when he is otherwise busy! He also seems to have just night trained himself because he hasn't had a wet nappy overnight in about a week but I'm keeping him in pull-ups at night anyway because I don't want to deal with wet sheets!

As a side note, in the third week he went through a bit of a phase where he was refusing to sit on the potty/toilet and then having accidents and was clearly anxious but I think I was causing it by constantly trying to put him on the potty, so I backed off and that's when he actually started telling me when he needed to go rather than just going when I told him.

@shakeitoffsis maybe I should try that instead of every 30 minutes to put her on as it might stop her getting sick of it! Thank you!

It doesn’t sound too bad for day 1. Give it a couple more days and see how it goes.

No shame at all I’m taking a break and trying in a couple of months.

The rule in my house is that the person cleaning up most of the piss decides whether or not to persevere. On that basis, I paused DD’s training (DP wanted to continue) and it was absolutely the right thing to do.

Good lucky for today OP! I keep telling myself that no matter how hard yesterday was today should be better

I would say they are not ready.
I have just started with my just turned 3 year old daughter (later than all my NCT group) but we had had no full wee accidents at home and only one at nursery.
We have had some damp pants but they haven't needed trousers replacing just dry pants and she then finish the wee on the potty.
Poo has been the biggest problem but we are working on it and have had only one poo accident.

You can get the first 3 chapters of ' oh crap, potty training' free to read through the kindle version on Amazon. They suggest having them naked but day 1 sounds pet much as expected. I think it's the end of day 2 or day 3 they expect the click. Good luck. We're going for it next month when my daughter will be 25 months. My friend did it with her still at 21 months.

Keep going! I found day 2 the worst but vast improvement on day 3 for both my kids. I would say naked from the waist down at least for the first few days. Oh Crap says no pants for about 3 weeks which we did and nursery were fine. Well, I didn't ask them I just did it! Obviously wearing trousers just no underwear.

You can get the Oh Crap book as a free pdf if you google it. Not sure I agree with everything she says but she'll get your head in the right place and make you realise you are teaching a new skill and of course they won't get it initially, but think how long it took them to learn to walk etc. Mine both trained just before 2 then had a weird regression/boundary test about 3 months later. I know they all do things at their own pace but at 2y10m I think she should be ready and will be so proud of herself when she gets it!

I found sitting them on the potty with a wee stool in front of them with a book/puzzle/toy on it helped at least keep them in the right place.

That sounds like the starts of success to me :) keep at it. You've got several more days till she goes back to nursery. I would do naked from the waist down for the next couple of days then no pants just loose joggers or shorts then same for nursery or add pants then if they insist.

Just wanted to update the thread incase anyone looks to this for the same reason in future!

Day 2 was an absolute write off- she didn't do a single wee in the potty, stood next to it and just let it drip down her legs. Also pooed on the kitchen floor.

We decided that we would just see day 3 out as we didn't have any plans for bank holiday Monday anyway and I couldn't believe it, she was like a different child. Not a single accident, took herself to the potty 8 times for a wee and also for a poo. Day 4 was exactly the same, no accidents at all!

DD has gone back to nursery today with pants on and was worried there would be loads of accidents with the pants as we went bottomless but only one little accident and took herself to the toilets there too!

So after feeling like I could cry on day 2, it really did miraculously click.

Good! So glad it was worth persevering.

Excellent update OP! Well done to your daughter. And to you for persevering. (And to us who cheered you on and encouraged you not to give up!)

@CarrotSoupwithCheese yes thank you SO much ladies, I would have surely given up after day 1 I felt so deflated!

That's great op, I know a lot of people wait til later these days, but ime they are more willing to try when they are a bit younger, and subsequently easier to train. (assuming they have an understanding of what's expected). It's always worth a try from about 2.5 or so imo. Well done to you, and your dd.

Don't give up, day 1 was the worst.
We didn't put my DD on the potty every 30 mins, but talked to her about the feeling of needing it instead. Only if she'd been nearer an hour without going we put her on. She wore pants and trousers from the start as she would've refused to be naked.
We had so many accidents the first day, we kept explaining that feeling was when she needed a wee. She was 2yo 4mo and by day 3 we had no accidents and from then on just the odd one if she was distracted.
Don't give up and assume she's not ready just from the first day. I read that we need to remember they're learning a new skill, we wouldn't give up with weaning, trying to walk etc after 1 day, why should you therefore with potty training. This really helped me get some perspective.

Keep going! Our first two days were the same but from day 5, she was pretty much dry! 🙂