I know no one on this will be able to comprehend it either but I just can't get my head to accept his friends and family accept and are fine with him abandoning his three kids
He is 26 and I'm 27. We have 6,4 and 2 year old. He has always painted the picture of an involved loving dad. His parents were under this impression and friends
But the past month he's just abandoned the kids. He has in the past before but never for long enough people would catch on. Last January he was super dramatic and said he was done with the kids and had the nerve to blame me. I'd never stopped him seeing them. Never made life with the kids difficult for him. When he cheated yes I went mental at him and any problems between him and I, I did argue and stand up for myself and when he lost control over me he decided to blame me for him not wanting to see the kids. Told me he'd tell them when they were older if they went to find him it was all my fault ... I've never been unfair with the kids ever I even offered 50/50. Then to accommodate him. Only thing I said is since you haven't seen them in so long you aren't dumping them on other people I want them in a routine of me these days. And dad those days then build up to that.
But he sees me as unfair because I claim child maintenance and he's shouted at me many times he has to pay to see his kids. I obviously claim the amount child maintenance says via them.
His best friend is called off his engagement and him and his friend haven't stopped going out Thursday- Sunday all month. He showed up last Saturday trying to get sex from me. Then said no I'd never sleep with you I've hated today with the kids I'm leaving. And that's the last I've seen of him
My brain cannot take in he is not wanting to see his kids or that people support him.
If my friend did this I'd be so disgusted and unfriend them very quickly.
I just can't get it into my brain he doesn't want to see the kids and he is supported. My head can't accept it
If this has happened to anyone else how did you finally accept it? How could you stomach people supporting him?
I keep writing it down and trying to accept he doesn't want the kids. He is just that kind of person but I physically can't accept it. I feel like someone's died. And people are allowing my children to be neglected by a parent and I know him and his best friend are laughing about it because they laughed about it before.