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Putting kids to bed

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MrsMomoa2 · 29/04/2023 07:55

My kids are 11 and 8, they pretty much bath/shower themselves. I am around. They get into bed, younger one sometimes likes a story, but otherwise a little chat. Kiss goodnight and on the whole thats it! I have a friend who I go to an evening class with.. she is always late (if she comes) kids of a similar age but she puts them to bed and stays with them until they are asleep.. and this can take ages! (Her husband is involved too they do it together!!)
Now I used to think it was sweet when they were younger but now I think they need to going to sleep on their own… or am I being a bit harsh.
I enjoy the class but was supposed to be something we did together and she picked it!

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welshweasel · 29/04/2023 08:12

She shouldn't have committed to an activity that she knew she wouldn't be able to get to on time. If she wants to sit with her kids until they go to sleep that's her lookout, the issue is making unrealistic arrangements with a friend.

Personally I think she's crazy, but then I've never sat with mine until they went to sleep, I value my evening too much!

Iminthemoneylife · 29/04/2023 08:19

You can express upset that she is missing some of the class but how she parents is her choice.

depre · 29/04/2023 08:27

Now I used to think it was sweet when they were younger but now I think they need to going to sleep on their own… or am I being a bit harsh.

Honestly? I think you are being a bit naive to assume she does this for her own benefit. Some kids don't sleep and their parents do what they can. It might not always seem like the right way but it is what works for them. After 2 non sleepers I can completely understand how people get into situations where they stay with their DC until asleep, it's not at all fun for the parents.

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1930toEdinburgh · 29/04/2023 08:48

You sound quite smug about how easy your kids are and judgy of her.

I'm pretty sure she'd rather have kids do what yours do!

NerrSnerr · 29/04/2023 09:35

All children are different and have different needs.

LovelyIssues · 04/06/2023 21:29

My children are the same ages as yours OP and yoir bedtime sounds normal. I wouldn't say you sound smug, she sound OTT.

icanflysometimes · 04/06/2023 22:12

I have a 10 year old with ASD and an 8 year old who struggles at school. I WISH we didn't have the ridiculous bedtime routines we do BUT I console myself that it won't be forever (I hope). We go up at 8 and we are lucky to be down by 9:45...

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