Baby doesnt want Dad to put him to bed

[Gigi89x]

My 10 week old baby screams when his dad tries to do the bedtime routine. So much that he screamed through bath time, refused milk.

This does not happen for me, we have a lovely bedtime.

How can i get baby to accept daddy at bedtime? DP feels very upset about it

Does dad do other things? Cuddle, changes etc have you been out without baby? If BF can you try expressing

DP shouldn’t be upset because it’s not personal. If he was the primary care giver and you were out at work it would be the other way around. I don’t think you should accept bedtime is now just your thing though. Can you do it together for a bit? Then you start to step out for a minute during bath, then come back and gradually build it up until DH is doing it by himself. And make sure he does plenty of other baby care on his own on weekends- nappies, cuddles, burping, bottles if not breastfeeding. The more he does, the more baby will accept him.

I would do bedtime together then in time you can let dad do it.

Listen to your child, they want their mum. Dad shouldn't let it get to him, it's perfectly natural for a young baby to want their mother. I feel silly even having to say that.

Time, perseverance, not taking it personally. I imagine you spend a lot more time with your baby than he does just by virtue of being on leave while he is worrying, so it's hardly surprising that your baby wants you at bedtime. It gets better over time, but tbh at that age I would just do bedtimes myself and they can work on spending time and bonding at other times. Ten weeks is very small to be distressed when it can be avoided.

Agree with this entirely. It’s happened to me once or twice (despite me being the primary care giver) parental preference is quite common and comes in phases, definitely work together to overcome it. Definitely shouldn’t be taken personally.

Definitely do not put yourself in the position where you are doing bath / bed every night or the only one who can provide comfort because before you know it you can’t go out and you’re sleeping on you child’s floor until the end of time.

DP does do other daytime feeds and bath time no problem. It seems to be the evening feed he wants me.

Last night DP sat with us during bedtime bottle and tonight we were thinking to get DP to feed him with me next to them, to make baby comfortable with it.