No girls allowed

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My just turned 3 yo boy has started to say "you can't come in mummy because you're a girl"

Any tips on how to deal with this? I've said we treat everyone the same but it feels a bit flat... Thanks

I'd say "Ok".
He will soon want you to come in when he wants a snack/find a toy/wipe his backside....

I would think he's just discovering he's a boy.

I'd say 'we all live here John and we are all allowed in and we are all allowed to go everywhere'

If he was five I'd do a bit more explaining about boys and girls and toilets and stuff but he's two so I think he's just probably trying to find out what it means.

Or ban him from your car as it's a no penis zone, tie a string on his wrist and make him run along side it.

We tell them and tell them that boys and girls can play with what they want and wear what they want and be whatever they want so when you think about it he's probably wondering why any of it matters.

Ha, I have to admit I wasn't heartbroken to have to sit and drink my coffee at the table 😂
His best friends at nursery are girls so hopefully it's nothing really. I think I'm really paranoid about not wanting to feel like he can't do things like play with dolls etc and I'm worried this this the beginning of it

It’s normal at that age. I wouldn’t worry about it. He is learning about boys and girls. We can all have our own space.

Don't overthink it. Just say OK, and wait for him to change his mind.

My DD1 went through a phase around that age of saying pink and purple were only for girls (learnt at nursery somehow not from me!) It didn't last long and now she hates pink and purple and will only wear other colours.

I have one of each and think you'll find that girls and boys say this about the other sex at this age. I wouldn't fight it, just enjoy your coffee! My two are in their twenties and have perfectly balanced roles in society and manage relationships just fine despite this phase!

Ok thanks all. I'll calm down.