Anyone end up with a good sleeper and didn’t sleep train?

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Just that really. I’m feeling a lot of pressure to sleep train (I know I need to avoid social media) but I’m hoping if I just ride this out then DS might sleep better one day?!
He is 7.5 months old and has never recovered from the 4 month regression. Between 2-3 months he would wake just twice a night for a feed then straight back down, sometimes just once. He wakes at least every 2 hours throughout the night and that’s if I’m lucky, often it’s hourly, and unless held for his naps he will only sleep for 30 mins on the dot. I am exhausted and starting to feel desperate. Looking for positive stories of those that didn’t sleep train and eventually their baby slept. I’m not expecting him to sleep through. Just a hell of a lot better than this :(

Yes although I think this may have also helped that I co-slept with all of my children.

they slept like a log once their heads hit that mattress

Yep. It took ages but I just lied to anyone with shit different opinions and then I didn't have to talk about it anymore, which helped a lot.

'Oh, yes, the sleep is much better thanks'. Change subject.

DD1 was a horrible sleeper as a baby. She's nearly 10 now so my memories are a bit hazy (probably not helped by the sleep deprivation!) but I seem to remember starting nursery at 10mo was a turning point, she was so knackered! Friday was my day off and she used to have a 3 hour nap that day to catch up.

She still isn't great at bedtime and struggles to wind down and actually go to sleep. But she's definitely slept through the night since she was a toddler.

I wish co sleeping worked for us, unfortunately he still wakes just as often. I think he has a feed to sleep association but when he wakes in the night so frequently I’m too knackered to do anything but feed him back to sleep because that’s the quickest thing to work

Yep, my first child eventually started to sleep through at 18m and we didn't train them.

Yes mine was a brilliant sleeper. Always slept in cot, pram, car seat etc. good as gold. Took me 2 evenings to teach him to settle at bedtime.

Started co-sleeping sometimes as he got (much) bigger. Now sleeps in with me most nights.

I figure it won't last much longer now (age 10!)

I didn’t sleep train but I had to stop BF suddenly when she was nearly 10 months, literally overnight, as she’d bitten me so badly on both sides I had to stop to let them heal - and she wouldn’t take any kind of milk from any kind of format other than me.

The weekend after that happened, we decided to stop co-sleeping and put her in her own room. Prior to this I’d been rocking her to sleep in my arms, then cosleeping from around 10-11pm at night because she woke so frequently. Plenty of overnight feeds for comfort.

With regards to her going in her own room, I’d been putting it off for ages, terrified of how badly it would go - but the end of BF gave us a good reason to just ‘suck it and see’. 2 months later and she’s now nearly 1 and pretty much sleeps through almost every night.

She also picked up the skill of falling asleep in her cot - she’d flail around in our arms during rocking, pulling at her skin / throats / hair and wriggling into different positions. One night I’d had enough so I lay her in her cot and rubbed her back until she fell asleep!

I thought it was a fluke but I risked it the next night and… it happened again! I put her in the cot awake, rub her back, sing, and she falls asleep in 15-20 minutes.

I think the 3 main things were:

• Stopping BF (and therefore night feeds)
• Putting her in her own room
• Learning that she sleeps best on her front (a total curveball)

Before all that, we were up and down all evening settling her, and my partner slept on the sofa most nights so I could safely cosleep. Now she sleeps through every night (unless her teeth are particularly bad) and I count my lucky stars…

So no sleep training here, but an adjustment of how & where she slept. Hope that’s useful!

I've never sleep trained and never would. I've got one who was a shit sleeper til about 2 and now shes brilliant. One is OK and one has always been great and has slept through since about 9 months. All breastfed in the night and coslept whenever they needed to, and all grew out of both. No drama and no crying needed

DD2 was a fantastic sleeper. From about 8 months we could lay her down in her cot wide awake and she would be out like a light within 10-15 mins. We were very lucky 😂

Sorry I meant to add - no sleep training needed, she just went from constantly waking to sleeping through. It was an actual miracle. But it is possible! Unfortunately it was absolutely nothing we did so I can't offer any advice!

I did not sleep train with my oldest and they had a pattern of only 2-3 wake ups a night from very early, maybe around 10 weeks, and carried that on until it gradually got to 1-2 wake ups by around 2 years and none at all by 3 years.

I did not sleep train with my middle and they slept “through” as in from 12-7 roughly, most nights, by 8-9 months.

I did sleep train my youngest. I tried anything I could possibly fathom with my youngest. They slept worse at 12 months than they did at 12 days or 12 weeks and did not sleep through reliably until 7 years and even then that was an 11pm-5.45am stretch if we were really lucky. And they always needed an adult to transition from sleep to wake (not to drop off, they needed an adult whenever they woke and still do at 9 years)

Had a naturally good sleeper from the start but had to sleep train after the 4.5 regression, but didn’t take long.

Yea my ds was a terrible sleeper from the word go. We tried everything. Stuck to wake windows, went with the flow, blackout blinds, white noise, drowsy but awake (that one really never worked as he would just scream). In the end I coslept with our baby from 6-10 months as it felt easier to get to him as he woke so frequently (every hour/2 hours) but it was completely for me not him as he still slept awful cosleeping. It got to the point I was so tired and felt he wasn’t sleeping great either I knew something had to change but didn’t want to let him cry as it would never work and he’d likely get so wound up he would vomit.
We started off by rocking to sleep and putting in cot fully asleep. Every time he woke and cried, we went back in straight away and rocked to sleep. It was brutal the first few nights waking between 10-15 times but eventually he slept all night in the cot.
He is now 13 months old and now sleeps through the night in his cot regularly or one wakeup for ~11 hours straight. We always rock him to sleep initially so fully believe drowsy but awake is a load of rubbish and it’s all just developmental. My partner even forgot to put the white noise on last week. Still slept through the night! He was just ready and we always comforted him as soon as he got upset.

Mine all slept well. I used to get them all sleepy and happy then put them in bed when they were awake. It took a while but eventually they all got really good at falling asleep by themselves.