Good evening, I hope everyone is well. I’m so sorry for the long winded post and thank you if you reach the end.
I’m a mother of 3 and I’m really struggling lately, particularly with our 6 year old ds. He was born at 29 weeks with sepsis and 2 bleeds on his brain but got the all clear physically at 36 weeks and discharged home. His tantrums and behaviour are off the scale, he was referred last year by our gp to the neurodevelopmental pathway, for suspected asd/adhd which was rejected due to lack of school information and needing a SALT referral sigh. He’s since moved schools and been seen by speech and language and we all seem to be in agreement, so we’re going through the process again. Academically he’s really behind and very slow picking things up, in contrast to my 11 yo dd who is pretty bright. He screams and tantrums over the smallest things literally morning till night whilst at home even waking in the night, it sometimes takes both me and dh to calm him down, but school haven’t witnessed the tantrums, they’ve only witnessed his impulsivity, struggle turn taking, lack of attention and lack of personal space towards others. Senco at school did suggest he is ‘masking’ some behaviours whilst there, So I’m worried this one will be rejected too. Tbh I can handle the majority of those things, it’s the screaming tantrums wearing me down. Everything is a battle and it takes the time away from my other 2 children also. He did used to hand flap and click his fingers but lately he’s saying he wants to hit himself :( he has hit me and dh, tried to push DD down the stairs multiple times and the worst last year, was turning on the hairdryer on the baby’s hand when I’d left the room only for a minute to get my clothes😢 I’m at my wits end and feel so down, I’m just a shell of my former self. Honestly if it’s rejected again I don’t know what I’ll do. I need suggestions on how I can handle myself better I think if anybody has any? Thank you for taking the time to read x