Night time toilet training

[Doodl]

My DD is now 4 and has been toilet trained during the daytime now for some time. I had put off for a while the night time training due to various reasons and it not being the right time. So we have just recently started in the last couple of days.

The first night my DD actually asked to keep her nappy off hence we jumped into and thought it seemed to be a good time. Obviously being first night she wet the bed but didn’t wake up, last night she had three little accidents but stopped herself before she’d finished so we popped her on the toilet and then back to bed. Tonight however she has completely screamed and insisted we put her nappy back on. I’m guessing she’s tired and obviously hasn’t liked the wet feeling. We tried to encourage her to carry on but she was really distressed so we decided to leave it and let her have her nappy on.

Should we now leave it a while, (weeks, months) and try again or keep going tomorrow night if she will allow? I don’t want her feeling too upset as it may end up taking longer.

One of mine was waking up with a dry nappy every night at under 3 so we started leaving them off. The other was nearly 7 and still wet every night so we didn't even try till the night we ran out of nappies and didn't realise.

That was about 4 months ago and he's still wet most nights so he might not be ready but he has had a run of 4 dry nights this week.

At 4 if she's still wet every night I would just leave her in nappies till the urine suppressing hormone kicks in more. There's limits to how much can be trained and it's much more about their readiness.

You can't train night time dryness on the same way you do being dry in the day. Take a look at the Eric website and put her back in bedtime pants/pull up/nappy.

I think you just wait until their nappy is consistently dry in the morning (that's what I did x 3!). It's not something you can train really. There's also a huge variation in what age they become dry at night. What we used to do was lift them from bed around 10 when we went to bed, and sit them on the toilet. They rarely fully woke but usually did a wee. Then they're more likely to stay dry for the rest of the night.

I did wonder if to lift her to the toilet when I went to bed but a lot of websites suggest you don’t as they don’t then learn to wake themselves. I’m possibly overthinking and over reading! I think we need to leave it for now and come back to it when her nappies are more consistently dry! Thank you for the advice 😊

She needs to be making the hormone to enable night time dryness. It cannot be trained.... is this not common knowledge !?

Clearly not! Thanks for the helpful post

As other posters have said unfortunately night training can’t really be trained unless you lift them. It is the release of a chemical that gets released at anytime from 2-5/6yrs old. I think you will be surprised how common it is for kids that age to not be dry at night. In my experience it is always boys that seem to take longer.

That being said our DD is 4 and still wears a nappy at night. Every now and then we try without it but unless she wakes up with a dry nappy 3 mornings in a row rarely keep it off. I think it is more embarrassing/distressing for them to wake up with wet pj’s than have a nappy on.

What nappies are you using?

DS has started having dry nappies and he's nearly 4.

DD is 6.5 and has never had a dry nappy!

Doctors aren't worried about it until they're 9 or something crazy like that.

Thank you. Appreciate the info. We put her nappy on last night as I didn't want her going to bed upset. She did wake herself at 2:30am and asked to go to the toilet so I think there are signs we're heading in the right direction but I'm not going to push it, I think we'll just wait until we have more dry nappies. We were using Pampers pull ups but I've just recently switched to the Tesco Coco Melon pull ups. I'm not sure if there's any benefit to switching to the night time pull ups? Think its Huggies I've seen.

Thank you, think we'll just go with the flow :)

My DD is 4 also and I contemplated night time training, however her pull ups are often still very wet in the morning so I thought I would wait and not push it.