still wetting herself at 5 yrs!

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My nearly 5 yr old daughter still wets herself regularly in the day despite being more than capable of using the toilet, washing hands, wiping and changing herself. She has been dry at night for the last 8 months. She toilet trained at 2.5yrs quite quickly but we have rarely had a dry day. I have tried the stickers, rewards, praise pathway, I have tried just letting her get on with it and I have even had the naughty corner/shouting scenario due to my frustrations. She seems too absorbed in activities or lazy to take herself. Every time I collect her from school she is wet and on some days has obviously been sitting in wet clothes for some time. I'm at my wits end - any suggestions.

Hm, have you had her checked out for recurrent Urine infections, etc...!
My friends little girl does wet herself still now and is almost 7, and with her it's a mixture of the tendency to get Urine infections and also certain foods/drinks trigger off daily wetting...things like OrangeJuice, forinstance...

I have personal experience of this as I was urinary incontinent everyday until I was 14 and had an operation.

I too was toilet trained and didn't wet the bed. It wasn't laziness, simply that my bladder would suddenly react and squeeze really hard without warning. I think it was called an overactive bladder.

It took years to deal with because it took a while to find a doctor to take it seriously- when you are only a small child it is seen as a fault of the parent, or laziness on the part of the child. I went through lots of different tests and drug treatments, but nothing helped. As I became a teenager, it was even more of an issue, obviously, and only then did people start taking it seriously. That is when I was given the surgery that made my life 100% better.

Of course, I am not suggesting that your child needs any of this, merely that there may be any number of things going on and I would go to your GP asap.

Hm, must mention this overactive bladder thing to my friend...

I've been having problems with my 8 year old son recently and have decided to take him to the doctors. Tried to get OH to take him last week thinking my son would prefer this but didn't happen and I don't think I can put his wetting down to lazyiness any longer.

He occasionally wets the bed, maybe once every couple of months. I'm now finding that most days his trousers and pants are damp or have been damp, as they smell. On two occasions he has come home from school completely wet. When I ask him what happens he tries to deny all knowledge of it -obviously embarrassed.

I'm away this week so unable to get to the doctors, so if anybody has any words of wisdom before his doctors appointment I would be grateful. Thanks