Waking on laying down

[Monstermoomin]

Not looking for "use cry it out" or "sleep training" advice, just moaning really.

There's been lots of sleep issues with my nearly 8mo and I've posted before about issues we've had.

Well, it's gotten even more fun. I now can't even place her in her cot (or lie her sideways in my arms) without her waking up immediately and crying.

Yes I'm aware doing the whole 'drowzy but awake' thing is what you're supposed to do but it's never worked for her so she has been fed/held to sleep.

Prior to previous illnesses, I was managing to get her into the cot for some very short (but appreciated) stints. Then it all went to shit. Then I went away for four nights and she wouldn't go in the travel cot without waking (because those bloody things are like trying to lower a baby to the floor with a gate in the way) and I couldn't just let her cry because we were sharing a room with my other daughter. So, we 'coslept' as in, I sat propped up and she layed on me like a cosy bed being held (not ideal I'm aware but we all needed sleep).

Since returning home, she has woken e.v.e.r.y.t.i.m.e I've tried to lay her in the cot, so yes, for my own sanity, the sofa bed has been pulled out so I can (as safely as possible) sleep with her on me propped up. I have tried to lie her next to me so we can cosleep safer, she wakes immediately.

I know there will come a point where this either improves through perseverance, age (in like 40 years), or some form of sleep training but we're not there yet.

I coslept with my eldest (for other reasons) until I went back to work and then my OH got her to sleep in her cot.

Just wanted to have a bit of a vent and get it all out, because I want my nice comfy bed back and to snuggle under my duvet (although I'll miss baby sleeps when she's big).

It's up to you, but sleep training is safer than what you're doing now.

Ditto above post. What you're doing is really unsafe. Either co-sleep safely or persevere putting her back in her cot if that's where you want her to sleep long term. It is really rough but you have to just keep trying and they do get there eventually. There isn't a magic bullet which solves it with no aggro. Sleep training is a spectrum so doesn't have to = CIO. There are lots of other methods - have a read and pick one you're comfortable with then stick with it. You have to be consistent, there is no point trying it for a few days and then caving. I did 10 weeks of her waking every 45 mins and having to be resettled. It was horrendous, but she sleeps like a dream now.

No advice but following with interest. My 7 month old DS is similar, wants to physically be held to sleep. It’s unsafe and not sustainable for us so think we’re going to look into some gentle sleep training :(

@SErunner yes I understand this and as I said I was managing to get her to go into her cot and this took a significant amount of time and perseverance, then she got ill and it didn't work.

I can't currently get her into the cot for 45 minutes, I can't get her in there for 45 seconds, or get her to lie in there awake but drowsy without screaming the place down or asleep without waking and doing the same. She hates being layed down period.

@Monstermoomin wondering how you got on with this as in a similar position!