Effective consequences

[Rikyli]

Our middle child (4yo) will continue to do things after we ask her to stop. Sometimes reasoning will work but she often end up in a time out. When I talk to her about it later she knows what she did and that we told her not too and that she will get put in a time out. when I ask why she dose it when she knows she will get in trouble she tells me “because I wanted to do it”.
she also has attention issues. Does anyone have any advice?

Try to use natural or logical consequences where possible rather than something arbitrary like time out (although time out does have its place too).

What kind of things does she do?

Don't use a time out, use a time in. Works way better and she learns. Hold her close till she calms down and then you can work on it, listen to her and when shes calm talk it through (not while upset shes still in flight/fight mode, she needs to pass to calmness with your support) say, I understand gorgeous girl (or whatever you call her), but I cant let you play in the road/play with the electrics (whatever it is shes doing), because I love you and its not safe, etc etc. Talk it out when calm, give up on time outs definitely.