Mum & dad roles

[trymybest2000]

Toddler's dad thinks his 9-5 Mon-Fri job is all he has to do. I'm struggling terribly, and have been since baby was born. I do 100% of the childcare, cooking, laundry, day to day pickups & clean as I go. He does 1hr a week deep clean of the house. I never get a break, rarely shower etc, but he's had plenty of time to go out to the pub, follow his hobbies, and spend hours on the Internet every evening & all weekend. Please can I have some back up on my opinion that time spent at home should be 50/50 on childcare?

Poor you. Of course a partnership should be equal and a 9-5 doesn't equate 24/7 child rearing and running a house. For comparison my DP gets up and gets our toddler fed and ready while I sleep in with the baby, then when he comes back from work he makes tea and we split bedtime and the cleanup, unless the baby is being really fussy in which case I look after baby and DP does 100% of the cleanup and toddlers bedtime. We each do laundry when we can. Weekends we split everything 50/50.

The fact your partner lacks the empathy to see that his laziness is causing you to go without showering, and it's gone on for this long, doesn't bode well. Does he bring anything else to the relationship? Can you afford to leave him?