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Post natal depression-being caused by others!!

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Spraoi22 · 16/04/2023 21:21

Hey all, I have a bit of a random one but I really need to vent. My partner and I live in his family home with our 3 month old baby. There's a housing crisis here at the moment so it's really the only option. I'm becoming so depressed because his mum is completely obsessed with our baby. Doting over him is one thing but she talks about him as if he's hers. She passive aggressively coos at him that 'mummy is keeping you from me' if we don't come downstairs for a few hours (I mean breastfeeding takes time and we're only allowed to keep the buggy downstairs, everything else has to be upstairs.) She says he's getting a bit too fond of his other nanny when I go to visit my mum. It's not just her either, his family are only interested in the baby and couldn't give a toss if I'm there or not. They constantly micro manage our parenting and have gotten him and him only a pair of matching family Christmas pajamas 😞 I know I sound like a baby but it feels like I do all the hard work and then they give their two cents on everything. He doesn't really feel like my baby and it's making me so depressed.

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Totalwasteofpaper · 16/04/2023 21:24

Honestly...i have never felt as vulnerable as i did post child birth with my first.
This would not be a way i could live. It might not be pnd but it would def effect my mental health.

can you move you and the baby in with your mum?

Spraoi22 · 17/04/2023 00:02

@Totalwasteofpaper thank you for your reply! It's really getting to me now, she would probably stop talking to me if I moved out 😞

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SeulementUneFois · 17/04/2023 00:05

Yes well that doesn't sound too bad - her stopping talking to you.
It's not like she gives a toss about you now.

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HappyAsASandboy · 17/04/2023 09:42

There is no way to make this change while you are living with them.

What options do you (with your baby) moving out?

typopro · 17/04/2023 10:11

Get out now!

DustyLee123 · 17/04/2023 10:13

You need to move out to save your sanity. Will your mum have you and baby, even if only for a week or two ?

justanotherdrama · 18/04/2023 16:41

What do you mean by housing crisis?
I'd be making plans to leave ASAP!

Bullzeye · 18/04/2023 18:44

You really can't be a mum in your own way whilst living there. This is a time to really enjoy being off with your baby you won't get this time back. I wouldn't be happy about that being spoilt by passive aggressive comments. Yes they prob support you and you are lucky you have the support but that's too far.

AnneLovesGilbert · 18/04/2023 19:37

Why can’t you stay with your mum?

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