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One night stand pregnant

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Mitchyp · 14/04/2023 18:49

Hi everyone nearly 24 years ago I had a one night stand and got pregnant I gave birth the following year to my daughter who's just turned 23 and over the years I did try and find her father well last Tuesday I found him and messaged him and he replied hours later totally shocked as understandable a few days later he phones and we had a chat and he said he does want to meet our daughter and then I told my daughter she was shocked she has now spoken to him in a short call and this Sunday I am meeting him then my daughter will meet him I apologised to him saying I did try my best and he said no need he's told his wife and they also have a daughter apparently his wife bless her is fine with it and my husband knows too I have had a hell of a week with emotions nothing for him but what I went through when I first found out I was pregnant have all resurfaced and crippled me the last week. I'm dreading Sunday and filled with embarrassment and I know it happens but still so nervous our daughter has Asperger's and has been hard work and she is nervous he won't like her because of how she is I said it will be his loss and everyone is special is their own way I am so proud of the young woman she has become I really need some morale support maybe someone who has been through this situation themselves many thanks Kyla *

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BCBird · 14/04/2023 18:58

I am.sending you all my best wishes. You are going through a lot at the moment. I hope things go as smoothly as possible. Take care

anon2022anon · 14/04/2023 19:03

Good luck to you all. Don't go in there expecting him to be dad, but someone to get to know your daughter and let a relationship hopefully grow.

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Mitchyp · 14/04/2023 19:14

BCBird · 14/04/2023 18:58

I am.sending you all my best wishes. You are going through a lot at the moment. I hope things go as smoothly as possible. Take care

Hi thank you very much

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Mitchyp · 14/04/2023 19:16

anon2022anon · 14/04/2023 19:03

Good luck to you all. Don't go in there expecting him to be dad, but someone to get to know your daughter and let a relationship hopefully grow.

Hi thank you I'm not going in there at all expecting to play dad straight away as I've said to my daughter just go and meet for a coffee and hopefully in time it will blossom into a nice relationship between themselves but if not we tried

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Mitchyp · 17/04/2023 13:30

BCBird · 14/04/2023 18:58

I am.sending you all my best wishes. You are going through a lot at the moment. I hope things go as smoothly as possible. Take care

Hi just to let you know everything went fine he's still in chock obviously but fully up for meeting our daughter and hopefully forming a relationship with her thanks for responding will keep the post updated as time goes on

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Mitchyp · 17/04/2023 13:30

anon2022anon · 14/04/2023 19:03

Good luck to you all. Don't go in there expecting him to be dad, but someone to get to know your daughter and let a relationship hopefully grow.

Hi just to let you know everything went fine he's still in chock obviously but fully up for meeting our daughter and hopefully forming a relationship with her thanks for responding will keep the post updated as time goes on

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YRGAM · 17/04/2023 16:40

Glad to hear it went well!

Grumpi · 17/04/2023 16:44

Ah OP that’s so good that it went well. It must be a big shock for him but also hard for you to have to deal with all the emotions from 24 years ago, again.

For what it’s worth you sound very caring and that your daughter has got all the support she needs as she navigates this new relationship x

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Mitchyp · 17/04/2023 20:46

YRGAM · 17/04/2023 16:40

Glad to hear it went well!

Thank you very much

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Mitchyp · 17/04/2023 20:47

Grumpi · 17/04/2023 16:44

Ah OP that’s so good that it went well. It must be a big shock for him but also hard for you to have to deal with all the emotions from 24 years ago, again.

For what it’s worth you sound very caring and that your daughter has got all the support she needs as she navigates this new relationship x

Thank you so much it has been hard and yesterday he said he's still in shock and I can't blame him I apologised again for intruding on his family life but once I knew it was him I had to contact him

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Mitchyp · 04/05/2023 17:09

Hi everyone just a sort of update my daughter and her biological dad are meeting in a few hours she is so nervous bless her she is 23 and also has Asperger's I am so proud of her will let you know later

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Mitchyp · 17/08/2023 14:54

Hi everyone just letting you all know they are both getting on great slowly getting to know one another they have met three times now once with me and twice on their own and they are in regular communication it's so wonderful to see so pleased for them something I didn't thing would ever happen.

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itsallnewnow · 17/08/2023 18:10

What a lovely outcome OP sounds like you did a wonderful job raising her and it's hopefully blossoming into a positive relationship for them both

Lisheen21 · 17/08/2023 18:29

I'm happy to read that it's all going well for you all. Can I ask how you managed to find him after all those years?

fortheloveofflowers · 17/08/2023 18:34

Oh that is lovely. So pleased for you all.

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