We have some meals we all eat at weekends/on days when one of us is at home with DC2 (like pizza, sausages, spaghetti bolognese, some with modified versions for DC1) and then separate meals the kids won’t eat.
I never assumed I would be a person who made two meals and “pandered to fussiness” until I had DC1, who was the kind to wail with hunger while refusing what was on offer. His weight was always at the lower end of the centiles and the only advice I had when I explained the situation at his one year review was that I “just have to make him eat”. Not quite sure how. He refused to eat anything I cooked from scratch - and I do mean anything, and very mainstream meals - for over a year.
We now strongly suspect he is ND and I think he may have ARFID - certainly, many of his eating patterns would fit ARFID, but he does eat from all the main food groups so we are much luckier than some. But it has taken all the pleasure out of mealtimes for me.
DC2 is not like this but has become fussier as he got older and is now refusing much of my cooking as well. So the majority of evenings, they have something earlier and we eat together later. This isn’t how I wanted to do food as a family at all, but for us at the moment, it’s the least stressful way of handling mealtimes.