What is with the negative attitudes?!

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Whyyyyy are people determined to make you feel like having children is the worst decision you've ever made?!

I'm pregnant with my 2nd child. My first child is an 18month old boy and he is a dream. Well behaved, sleeps soundly, easy to look after generally speaking and very happy and content. I don't openly brag about this but I'm honest if people ask what he's like..I feel most people want me to tell them how terrible it is so they too can have a moan.

All I have heard from day dot (even when I was pregnant with him) since I have told people I'm having a second "Good luck" "enjoy this while it lasts" "you'll never sleep" "if your first is good your second will be a nightmare" the list goes onnnn and onnnn and onnnn! So much negativity!!

AIBU to think these moaners can do one!!?

I have now totally convinced myself that this new addition will be so difficult in comparison! That's literally all I ever hear!!

I genuinely think women are afraid to mention they find having dc easy for fear of being called a boaster! I loved pregnancy - conceived very quickly every time. Loved labour. Bf was a doddle. Toddler tantrums? Bring them on..
The worst stresses have been since they left home...

Yeah, I’ve noticed it too. I’m a realist and I don’t mind a dose of straight talk most of the time but the second child negativity is pretty relentless. I think people mean well generally and want you to be prepared, perhaps in a way they weren’t, but it does get a bit much hearing it nonstop. We haven’t even said publicly that we want a second and we get it all the time, just in case 😂

ultimately having a second will be what it will be for people. I don't think you can really prepare (apart from practically) any more than you could to be a parent for the first time, and no amount of excessive doom mongering will change that.

I think in general there is soo much negativity about having any child, not just your 2nd. It’s good that people are more upfront about the hard parts but I agree that there are so many positives which aren’t spoken about. I think it’s all part of the ‘race to the bottom’ mentality society is in. Enjoy your lovely baby, fingers crossed for another easy littlelun for you!