Over bearing grandparents

[jsherro2]

My first baby is nearly 9 months old and my mum and sister was the first to take my baby out which upset me as I was recovering from c section. The first few months they took over and I barely had time to bond with my baby the family have argued with me so many times and ive had to call police numerous times because the arguing they hate the fact I dont let them take baby out and always want to take baby out without me being there. I'm single parent and very close to my baby and hate leaving her.

You need to make some boundaries op and put the foot down. There is a big difference between being helpful and taking over and it does sound like they have come to expect more than is reasonable. I think you need to try distance yourself a bit maybe if things are so bad you have had to call the police, not good for you or the baby!

All I want to do is enjoy being a first time mum it's my first baby so course I want to spend time and memories with her my family just try and get involved far too much then guilt trip me they are only helping but everytime they ask to take her somewhere it's always without me being there they say but am her mum I enjoy always being there x

Don't subject your baby with anyone who you have had to call the police about.

Come again… you have had to call the police a number of times? What on earth for?

You are a parent
this is your child

will you please start advocating for yourself and your baby

I wouldn’t want someone I’ve called the police on to be within a 10 mile radius of my baby let alone taking them out without me

You’ve had to call the police more than once? What happened?

You had to call the police on your family? what sort of atmosphere is that for a 9 month old or any of you?

I wouldn't be too bothered that your baby was taken out for fresh air when you weren't capable after a major operation - nor that it was looked after for a bit while you recovered. You have plenty of "firsts" with your child to look forward to. As a single mum I can imagine the love you have for her - but it's usually okay to spread the burden to let you breathe a bit.

But calling the police? you have to explain why you went to those lengths.

It that was me I would tell them to mind they business she is your baby and you tell them that and make it clear end of tell sister to have her own baby and ur mum to get a hobbie x

Do you live with them?

I assume you live with them, or why would you spend any time with them? Are you very young?