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If you kept the sex of your second child a surprise

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phillyp · 09/04/2023 18:53

We found out the sex with DS but while discussing plans for TTC a second we have both decided it would be lovely to keep it as a surprise. I was eager to find out with DS but next time around I don't think we would be super tempted to find out, we genuinely do not care about the sex so it doesn't matter either way. The only thing that I hesitate about it all the clothes. We've kept most of DS' clothes and sleeping bags etc and while there are neutral ones a lot of them are aimed at boys. I'm a very organised person so if I knew the sex I'd have all the clothes I know would be re-used washed and organised before the arrival but for other who kept the surprise for second did you just wait until they were here and then organise through everything? I wouldn't want a huge washing pile on top of all the other washing when they arrived!

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randommusings8 · 09/04/2023 19:49

I think you're over thinking this.....especially if not even pregnant yet. Just recycle/reuse what you can (if you want) and people always gift new outfits anyway. They don't stay in the any stage of clothes for long.

Blueberrylemon · 09/04/2023 19:49

I had a DS first. So for this baby I’ll either reuse a lot of DS’ things or I will be buying quite a lot of girls clothes

But mainly for me it’s having babies at very different times of the year. DS was born in December but this baby is due midsummer so if it’s as hot as it was last year there may not be much to reuse.

UsingChangeofName · 09/04/2023 19:59

Kranke · 09/04/2023 19:09

I have a boy, I can’t think of any of his clothes I wouldn’t reuse for a girl? Do you mean the kind of ‘daddy’s little boy’ type stuff?

I wouldn’t personally put a baby boy in a dress, but can’t think of anything I wouldn’t put a baby girl in?

This.

dc 1 is a ds and dc2 is a dd, but I don't think there is anything of his that I didn't put her in.
The presents, from family and friends when the baby arrived tended to be little dresses for dc2.

I really think you are overthinking this.
The first few weeks the stuff was all neutral, even if you think girls can't wear blue for some reason - all the tiny babygrows tended to be white / cream / pastels anyway.

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ParentsTrapped · 09/04/2023 20:24

I think you’re overthinking this. Having a surprise is a lovely thing - if you’d like to have that (once in a lifetime) opportunity then would be silly to pass it up for the sake of washing a few babygrows.

Also remember that you don’t need to wash and prepare every item the baby will ever wear before it arrives. I bagged up my DC1’s clothes by size so only looked at 0-3 before DC2 was born. As it happens we had boy followed by girl but all the newborn stuff was neutral anyway. I didn’t look at 3-6 months until DC2 was ready to wear it and again it was a manageable task to go through and sort. In my case there was nothing unsuitable for DC2 from a gender perspective, just seasonal as they were born at different times of year.

MissDollyMix · 09/04/2023 21:43

We did it the other way round and had a surprise first time and found out the second time. One of the main reasons we found out was so we could prepare dc1 as much as possible for their new sibling. Our DC were born at opposite ends of the year- one in the height of summer during a heatwave and the other in deepest winter in the snow so I needed to buy a lot of extra bits for DC2 (my winter baby) anyway. Because we found out DC2 was a girl- I bought some pink cardigans and little snow suits but other than that she just wore her older brothers blue babygrows.

Dinosauratemydaffodils · 09/04/2023 21:49

Didn't find out with dc2. We bought a few new neutral bits and washed all dc1's (boy) stuff. Once dc2 (girl) arrived we got lost in a sea of pink brought by everyone else.

saveface · 09/04/2023 22:02

We kept 2nd one a surprise. #1 was a DS.

Sorted through all clothes in newborn & 0-3 and had all neutral ones washed and organised. Brought a few extra bits that were neutral. I asked everyone who wanted to buy us a gift to wait until we'd had baby for clothes or buy neutral.

DS2 was born... so whilst I had DP on paternity we organised all the other clothes etc. would have done some online shopping during newborn snuggles if we'd had a girl.

Wasn't at all stressful to be honest. I think things are a lot more relaxed with number 2, well for us it was anyway. You don't really need all that much in the early days. A few babygrows and vests etc is all tbh.

Kranke · 09/04/2023 23:47

phillyp · 09/04/2023 19:44

@Kranke DS is the same with blonde hair and blue eyes and has a few times been mistaken for a girl, mainly when he was smaller but not so much now. Didn't bother me. Re the clothes it's just personal preference/styles I like that's all, I like florals so would likely chose some of that style for a girl rather than some of the things I have for DS, if doesn't mean I think it's wrong to dress a girl in elephant dungarees.

Oh! I love florals too! We have a lot of brightly coloured floral stuff. Remember you’re dressing them for you not them, they don’t have a clue!!

BabyB2022 · 10/04/2023 00:46

I've had a surprise both times (two girls). I sorted all the clothes up to 3 months but kept the more girly bits separately in case it was a boy.

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