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DDS sharing one big room or a tiny room each?

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Lardolader · 07/04/2023 07:30

We've got dd1 who'll be 2.5 when dd2 comes along. We have two tiny little bedrooms for them next door to each other with a very thin wall I could probably blow down.
Would you make them into one larger room for them to share once dd2 is 6months so they can keep each other company, share stories and bedtime etc or keep them as single small rooms?
By tiny, I mean fits a bed and a chest of drawers in, don't even know if I could get a wardrobe! But if they were one, I probably could (sloped ceilings). We have a playroom, so small rooms not necessarily a big problem.
I'd rather they share, but DH thinks it will interfere with sleep.
If we were to sell the house, we could just put the wall back up and keep our bedroom numbers for the house price 😄

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thegrain · 07/04/2023 07:32

That's fine if you plan on moving by the time they are older. By the time they are teens they will prefer their own room but I guess you could put the wall back up. Would a door work?

mynameiscalypso · 07/04/2023 07:34

I'd keep them separate in case DD2 turns out to be a terrible sleeper.

toomuchlaundry · 07/04/2023 07:36

Will it end up having 2 doors going into it?

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Parker231 · 07/04/2023 07:56

We put DT’s in separate bedrooms at six months old as they were waking each other up.

Kaylisa · 07/04/2023 08:01

I’d keep them separate if they have a playroom. They will see each other and do lovely things all day.

GoldenGorilla · 07/04/2023 08:03

I found sharing much easier when they were so small, means you do their bedtime routine and stories etc together rather than one after the other. So I’d knock the wall down and put them in together.

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Lardolader · 07/04/2023 08:05

Yes currently two rooms with two doors, altho at a funny angle so that they fit. It's a really odd house!
The wall is so thin I wonder if they'd wake each other up anyway, but dd1 has always been a pretty good sleeper.
My other idea is to knock down the shitty wall and then put in two small wardrobes next to each other in between so it gives a bit more sound proofing.
I'd like them to share so that it only takes one parent to do bedtime and the other one might get a break 😂

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Lardolader · 07/04/2023 08:07

Also, if we stay here very long term until they're teens, there's other bits of work we'd hope to do to the house to make it more practical and extend to get another bedroom or something.
Or we'd just put them back to two small ones

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FTMUM2023 · 07/04/2023 08:07

Maybe keep them separate for now and see how they get on with sleep first? Then if they want to share in a bit as you said easy to do. Maybe when they’re teens etc one could have the playroom as a bedroom?

forloves · 07/04/2023 08:09

My friend with 2 girls sharing had such problems when the girls were age 1-5. She was tearing her hair out over bedtime and night wakings for such a long time, and it made her miserable.

My DC was a terrible sleeper and couldn't have shared with anyone.

NuffSaidSam · 07/04/2023 08:09

I'd keep them separate at least until you know what sort of sleeper DD2 is andhow DD1 is going to react to having a sibling.

The number of rooms has no impact on how many people you need to do bedtime! Just do bedtime in your room/the playroom/DD1's room and then put them both into their beds at the same time. Initially you're far more likely to need two people to do bedtime because they're at different stages of development not because they're in different rooms.

alexisccd · 07/04/2023 08:11

I'd say keep separate given there is a playroom

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Lardolader · 07/04/2023 08:14

Great, thanks everyone, food for thought. Ok definitely a good idea to see what kind of sleeper dd2 will be. But if dd1 was great, dd2 definitely will be too right?! 😂😂😂😂
I don't think it's a big job to knock the wall down when/if it's time
Seems like everyone has such a mixed bag if sharing!

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pilates · 07/04/2023 08:25

I would keep separate

Craftyrose · 07/04/2023 08:31

My dds share. They asked to when my littlest was about 3 and my oldest was 7. There have been no problems with sleep at all for us. They are now 8 and 12 and still happily sharing! I imagine we will look to split them soon as friends are coming over a bit more, but it's been great for us!

dew141 · 07/04/2023 08:45

My kids are the same age gap. They tended to have different bedtimes even after the first couple of years so the older one would have been waking up his brother when he went to bed.

Or there'd have been lots of squeaking that his bedside light was keeping his younger brother awake. And one woke at 5-6am and the other quite a bit later. It was also nice for the older one to have a sanctuary away from his brother who was quite loud and full-on.

While it sounds nice in principle, I suspect the realty would be more fractious and at least one of them ends up getting less sleep. Given you have the choice of separate rooms.

CatOnTheChair · 07/04/2023 09:00

It's a disaster when my 2 share.
Well, DS1 loves company, and frequently co-slept. DS2 definitely wants to be alone, and really struggles when sharing.
So, personally, I'd be keeping the wall in place.

MumOf2workOptions · 07/04/2023 10:02

mynameiscalypso · 07/04/2023 07:34

I'd keep them separate in case DD2 turns out to be a terrible sleeper.

I agree plus resale value if your selling

RichardsGear · 07/04/2023 10:10

It may be that saying it's a three bedroom house increases the house price, however when potential buyers see that two of the bedrooms are little more than cupboards that's a different matter. Anyway, that's down the line. FWIW we have always had two (close in age) sharing and it worked fine and they are happy with it.

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