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Middle class, educated and well off parents generally need less support.... BUT YOU ALL THINK YOUR THE DOGS BOLLOCKS

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Tortington · 14/02/2008 00:20

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By stuffitllama on Wed 13-Feb-08 16:24:19

(from miles back)
i don't know xenia at all and dont think what she said is possibly offensive because it's her

she's probably right too but who goes round saying "because of this and that i'm a better parent than you"

i mean who? why? same goes for custardo and all of them on the other side
loads of offensiveness, rudeness and wanting to score points and be right
god it's worse than the nct

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Tortington · 14/02/2008 00:22

please do not curtial my right to comment on a thread by multi posting to max it out.

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Tortington · 14/02/2008 00:24

stuffitllama

its hard to comment on your post below becuse its so general

so i will just say

be specific

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avenanap · 14/02/2008 00:24

Sorry to interupt. Are you pissed off?

Tortington · 14/02/2008 00:27

warning

when reading this threadif you do not want it on our active conversations then please do not post.

warning
if you feel terminally bored ( but have the time and inclination to post such) then refrain yourself - press the hide button

and let the mumsnet massive decide whether this is a thread they would like to post on or not.

should this thread die tomorrow through natural boredom - this would be better than stopping people from posting purposefully.

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Tortington · 14/02/2008 00:28

pissed off - erm........ irked is maybe a better word.

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ZippiBabes · 14/02/2008 00:32

this is groundhog day then lol

Tortington · 14/02/2008 00:33

or... free speech

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ZippiBabes · 14/02/2008 00:34

yep

minorityrules · 14/02/2008 00:37

I hate hate hate the bumping out of existance thing that goes on here sometimes

Just ignore the threads you dislike or talk/debate them, stop with the self censorship and let others speak as they wish

Tortington · 14/02/2008 00:38

Nothing to do with it at all,dear rabbit, we've moved on; please keep up.
I think my point, sort of, was that the genes that you get are down to luck. After all, even if one parent has the Spockster "gorgeous" gene, you only have a 50% chance of inheriting it, and if the quality you are after is multifactorial (as we should assume intelligence, attractiveness etc. are), the odds are even less...luck, luck, luck!

By Rhubarb on Wed 13-Feb-08 15:41:38
pagwatch?

By Pan on Wed 13-Feb-08 15:40:50

is this the quick sand thread? - the more you struggle out of it, the more it just sucks you in???

By Spockster on Wed 13-Feb-08 15:39:01

Ye-e-e-e-s, it's only when you are pregnant/driving that you realise how boring everyone is and that all those funny stories are just the last funny story being repeated over and over and over again...

Just like MN, you are very astute; most profound.

By littlelapin on Wed 13-Feb-08 15:37:23

I'm sure I read somewhere that Princess Diana had dyslexia?

IMO, IQ and exam results are not necessarily correlated (and no, I don't have a study on that, just experience of some really really bright people at uni who were SHITE at exams! Nerves, mainly). But that's a whole different debate.

I do completely agree though that temperament/IQ/attractiveness are down to genes rather than luck, although environment may play its part. If my mum had married someone better looking, I'd probably be better looking, that's just genetics, no? (sorry dad!)

I'm not sure what any of that has to do with "class" though.

By pagwatch on Wed 13-Feb-08 15:30:21

Oh I quite like it.
It reminfds me of the occasional Friday night drink after work when for no apparent reason the usual chatting and laughing turned into a really deep discussion about something that seemed incredibly important - until we all woke up he next day with serious hangovers and realised we had just been totally pissed. I remember having a furious arguement with one of my collegues about the treatment of catholics in ireland in the early 1900's. I later found out he was discussing the miner strike.

( BTW If you do not leave as soon as the drunk current affairs discussion ends then you are doomed to tell everyone you love them, walk the length of the bar with your dress tucked in your knickers and end up shagging the new guy in accounts).

By Rhubarb on Wed 13-Feb-08 15:29:45

It's because she has bullshit genes.

By Spockster on Wed 13-Feb-08 15:26:15

Snort.
If I were Princess Di (which, obviously, I am not...that would astound even Al Fayed...) I would be a bit narked at the suggestion that I got lousy O-levels because I had a low IQ. It does not follow. It may be true; but then again, it may not; there are many reasons why someone with an average or above average IQ may have got her O level results, and this comment just displays a basic lack of understanding of the complex issues around academic and exam. success.
For someone so supposedly bright, Xenia talks a whole pile of bullshit.

By hunkermunker on Wed 13-Feb-08 15:21:32
I think Lapin said it best:

God can't this thread max out or sink the depth of obscurity? It's DULL.

By Rhubarb on Wed 13-Feb-08 15:11:40

I am actually at a loss for words.

Really and truly.

By GooseyLoosey on Wed 13-Feb-08 15:09:17

I have skimmed this thread and must admit, I have no idea whatsoever what it is now about.

I also have to confess to having no clear idea of what being middle class is. I work, dh works and without doing so, we could not live. Does that make us working class? We also both have degrees from Oxford, so does disqualify us from being working class and gain us admittance to the middle class?

SIL on the otherhand has never worked a day in her life and lives on a council estate (I am making no judgements here). Does that make her working class or, as she middle class because she does not have to work?

Who exactly is being criticsed here?

By Xenia on Wed 13-Feb-08 15:08:34

Which gene comment did you want a source for (and I will look)?
By monkeytrousers on Wed 13-Feb-08 15:00:51
it's not offensive, just strictly partisan - and hence unconvincing (and also not backed up with facts)
By SuperGrrrl on Wed 13-Feb-08 14:57:18
''All parents whatever their class and IQ (and many posh people have a low IQ by the way - look at the GCSE results of Princess D for a start) can always benefit from improving how they deal with their children''.

i agree totally.

By littlelapin on Wed 13-Feb-08 14:56:56

I agree with Xenia's recent posts, and I don't perceive them as her boasting at all - she's just a name on a screen to us all, why would she want to impress us? I could tell you I have an IQ of 200 and look like Kate Hudson, how would you know if I was telling the truth or not! (I don't, by the way - look like Kate Hudson )

This is completely unrelated to the class discussion, but more generated by people's reactions on this thread - it's very clear that comments by some posters will always engender a strong reaction. I think if someone considered more middle of the road had posted some of Xenia's comments - for example that last one about genes vs luck - people might said yes "hmm, yes, I see your point". But because it's HER, it's "offensive".

It's not just Xenia, I'm sure there are other posters who cause this sort of visceral response in others (from all sides of the class divide! )

By monkeytrousers on Wed 13-Feb-08 14:54:39
Please, pass on these recent genetic studies you have been looking at, Xenia!

By Xenia on Wed 13-Feb-08 14:53:37

Certainly it's right to give all children who can benefit it a good education and good parenting. People will never be identical unless we mass produce clones I suppose but it's better for us all if there's good opportunities for all . All parents whatever their class and IQ (and many posh people have a low IQ by the way - look at the GCSE results of Princess D for a start) can always benefit from improving how they deal with their children.
By SuperGrrrl on Wed 13-Feb-08 14:53:15
library books are free. i was v poor as a small child and i was read to every day. not all poorer families place no importance on things like that.

By monkeytrousers on Wed 13-Feb-08 14:53:11

Xenias opinions about genes are just that, opinions; they are not supported by contemporary evidence.

But it is a traditional conservative view.

On another note, apparently speaking to children in negative 'you' statements rather than 'I' statements can be very damaging and tantomount to emotional abuse.

By witchandchips on Wed 13-Feb-08 14:43:59

Surely the interesting question for policy is not whether luck, genes, nuture etc. can explain differences in outcomes now but whether better social and economic policy can create a more equal society.
For example we know that a child born into a deprived family who does not receive the right kind of stimuli is likely to do worse later on than her posh friend down the road who is read to every night. whether it is nature or nuture is not important, what is important is whether something like sure start can make the poorer child achieve more

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Tortington · 14/02/2008 00:40

i didn't write the first post below - cant find who did. arrgh'

ithink after this it got silly - there wer intemittant serious posts

and if anyone wants to comment on those and feel that this section articularly is out of context then go ahead.

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avenanap · 14/02/2008 00:41

bloody hell! You know whey are probably talking ywadle don't you?

stuffitllama · 14/02/2008 00:42

you can't ignore it, it comes up under threads i'm on

so i'm just going to say

enjoy

and tara x

Tortington · 14/02/2008 00:44

the few poosts below certainly dont galvenise me to comment although it hink MT had some good points - she is infinatley more intelligent than i and my drossy addition could only come in the form of "yeah! you tell 'er" so best not bother

i was bored of it so left it

wouldnt dream o stopping other people commenting on it
saying they wre bored
talking about shit pies

whatever

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Tortington · 14/02/2008 00:44

wel you cant ignore it now you have posted on it !

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S1ur · 14/02/2008 00:47

corblimey girl hold on let me read this in a sensible way...

S1ur · 14/02/2008 00:55

sorry clearly being dim tonight.

what's your point?

If it's that you should be able to hold people accountable to their words on mn by quoting then fair do you got my support. but feel like i'm missing somehitng and it probably has to do with genetics???

Tortington · 14/02/2008 12:54

pmsl @genetics

no nowt to do with genetics - unles yu have a view on genetics

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FioFio · 14/02/2008 12:57

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MicrowaveOnly · 14/02/2008 13:02

custardo this thread is just plain narcissistic.

What the hell are you on about?

< MO walks away wondering if custardo is having a MN overload breakdown?>

Tortington · 14/02/2008 13:03

nice name MO - not one i recognise.

thanks for the bump

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