Teenage sleepover with partner

[waterwitch]

Like many teenage girls, dd (14) sometimes has friends for sleepover, and they sleep in her room. She now has a girlfriend, and wants her to come for a sleepover. If it was a boyfriend, I would put him in the spare room. What do I do?!
For context, gf’s parents don’t know they are in a relationship

You put them in separate rooms or you don’t allow them to have a sleepover. (Dd wasn’t allowed boyfriends / girlfriends to stay over, she’s bi, I think it actually encouraged her to go to university so she could do what she likes! - she’s 20 now and we have a great relationship). I think it’s too much, too intense when they’re younger. It makes the relationship much more serious. Too much, too young.

Thank you Xrays you are absolutely right of course. It feels a bit weird as gf stayed over as a friend previously, so I have to make the point that I’m treating her differently now. I do just need to get on with that though!

Far too young for gf or bf to stay over and I wouldn't be happy not knowing either

If they are going to be intimate they are going to do it regardless. I am of the opinion that I’d rather they were safe and in the house than in the park or something somewhere.

However, if you don’t want them being intimate in your house why would you allow them to sleep in the same room? I wouldn’t be OTT about it though, it can make someone feel deep shame around sex and like I said, they will do it any way.

What’s difficult here however is the other girls parents don’t know and it’s not ok to take their choice away in this so I think I’d have to say no.