When to introduce potty training and bed (rather than cot)?

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DS is 2 years 4 months, and I am due another baby in July. I don’t think he’s ready for potty training but am hoping he might be in the next couple of months. If he is, would people recommend before or after the baby is due? Similar for bed - when should he ideally transition from the cot to a bed? Thanks 😊

We’ve spoken lots with our HV about things like this and honestly don’t feel because your child is a certain age, they ‘have’ to do certain things like a new bed or potty training immediately - they’ll do it when they’re ready 😊. Making them do something before they’re ready can delay the process and make it much harder.

If you’re going to do something, pick a time before baby comes or after, not very soon after they arrive as that’s a huge change for your son. Also do one thing at a time. Our DS has just turned 3 and was never keen to crack on with potty training so we’ve left it. Had a baby at the start of Feb and only last week started potty training him as we felt it was long enough, he was used to her and was finally showing consistent good signs.
We did it intensively over 3 days to start him off and he’s doing amazingly now. Waiting was the right thing for him.
I recommend a book called ‘no more nappies’ and just having a potty where he spends a lot of time to get him used to it before you do it.

Our DS is also still in a cot bed as he’s always been extremely comfortable there, has loads of room and never tried to climb out. Once he’s fully established with his potty training, we will be looking to move him out but our HV said it’s absolutely fine for them to still be in a cot at this stage as long as they’re happy.

Good luck and late congratulations on your new baby.

I moved my dd into her cot bed at 2y 2m because she climbed out of the cot. She was much happier under her duvet and has slept loads better since.

We attempted potty training around the same time (though I was heavily pregnant) and it was a waste of time because she didn't understand. We both got stressed. I then tried again at 2y 5m when she'd started saying wee wee and she was dry, in knickers and using the potty for wees and poos during the day within 4 months. Just that short time made the world of difference to her progress.

My girls moved from my bed into their own at around 22 months. Both potty trained just after 2. DD1 found it easy. DD2 was emotionally ready/nappy refusing but it took her forever to ‘get it’. It was a nightmare.

Just realised I said 4 months - meant she was dry within 4 days!

I had my second when my DD was 2.5yr. I'd planned to leave potty training until a couple of months after our second arrived as read to not to it too close, but 6 weeks prior she started to refuse to wear nappies so we decided to go for it. She took to it well and hasn't has any regression other than the odd poo in her nap time nappy "because the baby poo's in her nappy", but she got over that in a week.

In terms of bed, she's still in a cot and we are planning to leave her in it until nearer 3 or after. She loves her cot, never climbed out and sleeps amazing. Personally choosing not to push this and will follow her lead. Initially I was planning to move the baby into her cot, but as it turns into a toddler bed, I think f she still is in it when we want to move baby into her own room, I'm now just going to buy another cot bed (although appreciate not everyone can do this).

I'd therefore try not to stress it or push them before they're ready.

Our 3 year old son had been in a proper bed since he was 1 and a half.started potty at 1 and he was trained in about 3 months. Our twin girls are 4 months over 1 and started them on potty at 10 months . They only wear a just in case nappy at night in bed now. 1 twin decided she didn't like cot last week so is now in her own bed and sleeping nights to

Dd1 (13) was fully potty trained at 18 months because I was due to have dd2 and didn't want to have both in nappies. Dd2 (12) was around 2.5. Dd3 is 3 and she uses the potty or toilet for all her wees, but she will not poo. I have tried everything I can think of but we aren't getting anywhere. All kids are different and achieve milestones at different ages than what's considered 'normal'

We moved DD to a bed just after she turned two and potty trained a month or two after that. This was around four months after her baby sister had been born.

Moving to the bed slightly improved her sleep but it didn't make much difference really. We mostly did it so DD2 could have her cot. With the potty training she got what she was supposed to do on day three and then was reliably clean and dry all day within about a fortnight.

Personally I wouldn’t try to do too much at once, a new baby is a big change.

DS was in his cotbed with the sides on until he was about 3.5. I only changed it because he asked me to. I also potty trained him at just before 3 on nursery’s advice (they said not to try it too early) and it was done in a couple of days.

You know when your child is ready.

My DS1 didn't move to a toddler bed til he was 2.5 as he was happy in his cot. DS2 climbed out at 18 months old so it was game over then for his cot! 🤦‍♀️