Miserable one year old

[Bluebell500]

Can someone please help.

My baby turned one last month and it seems ever since then, he has not stopped moaning. I am drained from the constant Whining and whinging!

terrible to admit it, but I mutter the words ‘shut up’ at least 100 times a day.

He has been a bit unwell (cold, teething, conjunctivitis), started nursery (they tell me he loves it and has lots of fun when he is there) and had his one year jabs all within this time.

He is also super clingy with me (hysterical If I leave the room for a second)

I’m starting to worry that something is wrong and should I go to the doctors? I just cannot for the life of me understand what he is actually moaning about.

Please please tell me this is phase that he is going to grow out of soon?

I can't help unfortunately, but my 10 month old is very similar. On the odd days he's absolutely fine but 9 times out of 10 he's moaning all day.

I'm not sure why at all, but my guess was that it's how tantrums start.

my son definitely had a difficult few months after a year. He is 18 months now.. and overall is m!uch more manageable. As his language and mobility have improved I think he is less frustrated and more independent. on the flip side the tantrums are very real but largely amusing to me at this stage because they are just so dramatic.

Good luck.... it will get easier. xx

DS was awful around the year mark. Such a grumpy, frustrated, whiny thing. It improved massively when he was confidently walking and started talking/understanding language well, probably around the 15 months. We’ve never had a phase as bad as it since.

This is such a normal (and very fucking draining!) stage. They’re still learning that when they can’t see you doesn’t mean you won’t come back, so they do kick off to ensure your return.

The whining is because they like the sound cheeky stinkers they are!

Is he trying to crawl/walk/work out another milestone? I found Dd almost impossible when she was trying to learn something and then she’d be a total dream girl once she’d mastered it.

They do get better by 18 months I found. Obviously new challenges then (and sadly the whinging did continue for a fair while after that).

Oh my baby was the most miserable little swine ever. He evolved into a slightly better toddler although still a giant pain, actually became a lovely little boy and as now evolved again into a bloody miserable teenager!

I hated the whingeing stage so much. I'd rather have her crying as usually there's something to "fix" but the whingeing just felt relentless!
My DD is 18 months now and much improved on the whingeing front but still pitches a fit if I dare leave her downstairs with her dad while I go and have a wee so only time will tell with the separation anxiety.

Ahh thanks everyone! Feel like I’m going insane but glad to know I’m not the only one!

He has begun taking steps on his own the last few, so I’m hoping he will start walking soon and maybe this will relieve some of the whinging (doubt it, but hopeful 🙂😂)

It’s bloody hard work being a parent isn’t it!?

My DS is still a bit of a whiner and he's 3 in a few months 🙄 only now that he can talk, he talk whines. And it's very draining. But apparently very normal 😬

DS is the same. In some ways it’s good because we haven’t really ever had proper tantrums…but the phases of whining even though his speech is excellent makes my teeth grit! From my limited study of my group of mum friends with toddlers, I think you either get a tantrumer or a whiner (maybe some unlucky folk have both, and some lucky folk have neither!)

Mine was exactly like this. She's 18 months now and a total delight. She's been such a joyful loon for the last few months. The year mark it was like a switch flipped and it was rough. Also didn't help that once she started nursery she started getting a gazillion bugs.
Often found her whinging was everything and nothing. Frustration at not being able to communicate what she wants, at not being fully mobile, at life... tiredness, bugs, teeth, jabs, new routine, mummy's not there all the time (mine loved nursery but became a little spider monkey attached to me at all other times), boredom, overstimulation, just because whinging was the flavour of the day... it was rough but now we are through it things are miles better.

Mine was like this around the year mark too. It felt like all he did was whinge and cry. Not even proper crying, just a crying noise.

Fast forward to now, he’s 16 months and this is the most fun he’s been. He’s a delight to be around, a total comedian who just loves being alive. If I pretend to fall asleep then jump up and scare him, it’s hysterical. If I dance, it’s hysterical. If I blow raspberries on his neck, it’s hysterical. If I pretend he’s invisible and look for him in silly places like under cups and on the ceiling, it’s hilarious.

Honestly, it’s night and day from before.

Stick with it, OP. It won’t last forever.

I had a both one. My god I thought my brain was going to implode.

I can promise by the time they go to school (and especially after they hit 6) it becomes SO much easier! Thank god.

Mine was the same around this time, and maybe until 15 months?! It's a stage that I think most go through. His siblings are at school during week so it's just us a lot of the time. When they are home he clings to me and I guess maybe feels threatened. All normal, take regular moments for yourself and you'll get through it. Best way to respond ia to acknowledge their little moments too and not to brush off so quick... they need to know they're feelings and emotions matter too

HELP. My little boy (14 months) is the clingiest thing in the world. When I leave him with dad, he kicks off but will eventually calm down and then is fine apparently, but the minute I walk in he’s whinging and immediately wants picking up. Partner says I’ve marded him and now he’s like this with me because of me. Nighttime, is an absolute nightmare. I must be up in the bedroom at least 4/5 times,he won’t sleep in his own bed so sleeps in ours and has to be cuddled back to sleep. Let me tell you when he sleeps with me, he literally needs cuddling with his arms sometimes around my neck whilst pulling my hair (don’t get me wrong sometimes it’s cute, but other times I just want me own space and time) he will play on his own or with his sisters and doesn’t yet attend nursery, although this js soon about to change. Will nursery improve the separation anxiety issues or just exasperate them.

I'm hoping nursery does help with my LO. He's not use language very well and frustrated trying to communicate. Hope it brings it on for him