Kids screaming

[Kiwistar]

Today I’ve just realised how AWFUL it is. My daughter (8) talks in a shouting cross voice ALL the time. I’m trying to work from home today and have made a massive mistake because I can’t focus while her and her younger brother are fighting and screaming at each other. Then I tell them they can’t have sweets now because (after warnings) they have continued to scream shout and physically hurt each other. So following this they have just been screaming and shouting some more about how unfair this is. I was almost in tears with how frustrating this is and how mentally draining. Then of course I explode and start shouting myself (not proud) and try calm it down but to no effect really until (surprise) I stopped raising my own voice. The neighbours must think I’m beating the living crap out of these kids (I’m definitely not)! It’s just exhausting and loud and makes me feel so drained by it all. Anyone managed to overcome

• siblings fighting with each other on a daily basis
• Screaming and shouting all the time in the house (mainly my daughter) but son now competing with her and I can’t help but join in just to try and stop it (it doesn’t work)

HELP

I find that when mine are shouting I start shouting too and it never works. I try to separate mine and keep on repeating that I can’t hear and understand them until they are talking in a normal voice. If I need to I’ll step out the room so that I don’t end up shouting then come back in and again try to calm it down.

Supposedly the trick is to talk really quietly so they have to stop screaming to find out what you’re saying. It doesn’t work here , but definitely worth a shot.

Mine only have one volume too: Loud.
Eldest and middle DCs (6&8) hardly speak to each other unless it’s to snipe and bitch and whinge and bicker. They rarely turn physical, but they are just verbally horrible to each other.
Only thing that I’ve found to have an effect on it, is to remove all technology so they either have to find something to entertain themselves separately, or have to get along in order to play with something together.
If the fighting continues, I’ll just carry on removing things (toys etc). We got to the point the other day where they were just sat on opposite ends of the sofa in silence because I trotted out the “if you’ve got nothing nice to say to each other then don’t say anything” line 🤷🏻‍♀️

She might be talking like this yes but wfh with young children like that is not ideal

I think it's quite ambitious to try to wfh with two children that age tbh. It sounds like they need to be taken out and 'run' (park, playground etc.) so they're a bit calmer later and can play, watch TV or focus on their own activities without winding each other up and screaming. Do you have time off/childcare for the rest of the week?

Sorry late response! I ended up taking them to grandparents house so I could go into the office. I’ve realised I simply cannot work from home with young kids! My previous job was much calmer. Current one requires a lot of my focus. Luckily I have a bit of time off now and childcare to cover remainder of holidays so I don’t have to put myself or them through it really. Kids get bored and feel like I’m not giving them any attention then play up. All good advice though. Thankyou all