I just need some thoughts really..
My 13yo isn't the biological daughter of my partner. She doesn't know her Dad, but equally, she doesn't call my partner Dad and he's only been around a few years. I do the behaviour management and rules for her and only ask that he's nice, fun etc.
There are younger children in mix (two are partners, one together).
I feel like my partner is overly harsh on my daughter. If she doesn't put a wrapper in the bin, if she makes mess, he moans she uses too much toilet paper or opens too many bottles of water. He says she's too overdramatic, that she uses a baby voice etc. He has previously said I let her walk all over me and I'm not strict enough, that I should 'stamp it out' in terms of a particular behaviour. An example is I don't care if she puts her washing away tonight or tomorrow, but if its not done by 4pm tomorrow she isnt having money to go to the cinema with friends etc. He thinks I should just shout and make her do it that minute. He says she is unkind to his 8 year old..she isn't but because they're closest in age, she will sometimes wind him up etc and him her. He doesn't ever comment to my daughter really but will moan at me about it. My daughter gets annoyed because she says he lets the other kids do whatever but gets on her case.
She's a good kid, kind, funny, well behaved, and so lovely with the younger ones. She will spend hours playing with them etc. She can sometimes have typical 13yo attitude but she doesn't shout or swear or name call, or anything aggressive just sometimes can be a little moody but would leave the room quietly rather than create a drama. Sometimes she decides she hates him, especially if she gets any sense that we might have disagreed about something, but equally she adores him and will tell him she loves him, ask him to come to parents evening etc.
I just wondered whether other people have these sort of issues.