What grinds us down

[Flittingaboutagain]

Any mums out there with very young children/babies who can relate and advise?

My husband is a moaner. He does so much practical stuff for the family and does a lot of hands on parenting. However, when doing so of his own volition or when asked to do so he rolls his eyes, tuts, grunts or makes negative comments such as oh great/lucky me every day. It's really starting to bring me down. He wasn't like this after our first. It's crept in gradually.

He says he can't wait for the children to be secondary age (that's so far off) so he can do less and is wishing life away until then. He enjoys the fun stuff but the day to day parenting grinds him down. I don't feel that way at all. I feel so fortunate to have them it's his negativity that is grinding me down. Does that make sense?

Any thoughts? How can we move forward positively?

Anyone?

Any thoughts? How can we move forward positively

If he's willing to seek help, maybe talk to the Gp and do positive things that help his MH you may be able to get him to change his attitude but otherwise I'd be considering if you want to stay with a Man who think a the teenage years are going to be his dream.

I’m not making excuses for him whatsoever but I know I do this when I’m depressed. DH tells me when I get like it so I can do something about it. I become horribly negative and it’s terrible for everyone. I’ve even done the “oh whoopdido lucky me” and wishing the early years away - which I don’t actually mean because when I sort my mood out the day to day grind doesn’t affect me one way or the other.