Is DD gifted?

[Staffielove23]

She has just turned two and she can verbalise emotions. For example, she can say ‘no, I’m scared’ when not wanting to go down a slide in soft play. There’s been other things too like counting really early and describing what she sees in a story book.

it's not at all unusual especially first born girls who are often talked to much more than subsequent children.

I'm sure you're daughter is very clever, but that is all totally normal in my experience.

I think most children have some special gift and you will discover it with time but being academically gifted is not all it's cracked up to be.

My dgd writes appallingly and is very slow at reading but has very interesting problem solving skills.

I don't think anyone can say on that, I am sure 99% of us can come up with something our child has done that we could think is giftedness

I have videos of my eldest dd at Xmas when she was 9month old pointing at things/people and saying "who's that?" Or "what's that" she could also walk at that age. She's now a very normal adult good at some stuff, bad at others.

Perhaps just wishful thinking on my part 😂

It's great skills and she is doing really well, so keep nurturing that. It will be very helpful for toddler tantrums if she can articulate her feelings more, and if she keeps progressing, she'll likely do well at school. I wouldn't overthink the 'gifted' label though, it seems to cause more issues than it's worth!

I'd say it's in the normal range, in the sense that other children will too, if they have been taught it and are progressing well with their language.

I wouldn't say it's normal in that all children can. They aren't expected to count to 10 by 2, and words like 'scared' are on the more advance end that most children won't use until later.

@TomatoFrog they debunked that myth decades ago. Using chocolate buttons, yup children knew what numbers represented more treats vs less treats.

My two year old will say she’s scared/tired/hungry etc. She’s behind where her brother was at this age (he has ASD) but I’d say she’s still average/slightly brighter than average. I do 2 year developmental checks so see the whole range. You can have children saying a handful of single words, and children talking fluently at just turned two, and both would be considered ‘normal’.

Nope my just turned 2 year old twins verbalise emotions all the time - scared, sad, happy, tired. They can also count

It sounds as though your daughter is doing well. It's too early to tell whether or not she is 'gifted', it isn't unusual for two year olds to be quite articulate and able to express their feelings. Just enjoy her for how she is.

It's not something I'd wish for. Intelligence sure, but gifted can cause all sorts of issues. My youngest is gifted. At 2 he had significant delays in most developmental areas, barley spoke. He's 2E or twice exceptional being Autistic and having an IQ in the top 2%. Hes very smart and perceptive but so far has only used his high IQ to get back at his brother's in very unusual ways, from a young age. I feel like he'll either come up with something amazing or discover a potion of chemicals that will turn him into a supervillain.

Sounds within a normal range to me @Staffielove23 😊 she sounds like she’s doing really well! My DS is 2y 5m and it sounds quite similar to things he was doing at the same time.
I’ll warn you though - as much as it’s lovely that DS has been able to verbalise his feelings/needs clearly for a good while...it also means he can clearly verbalise his big opinions quite early 😅😂 Never did I think I’d be having such arguments with my toddler at this age 🙃 or have him wanting to negotiate when he doesn’t want to do something 😅

Id say Upper end of normal.

"Gifted" is not something I'd wish for my child. My dh and i were highly intelligent (not gifted) and were pushed/ excelled academically. It was a hard cross to bear and comes with some social challenges.

My "wish" is my DD is NT, intelligent enough and happy & healthy

We all think our first born is gifted

I feel like he'll either come up with something amazing or discover a potion of chemicals that will turn him into a supervillain.

This made me chuckle @EliflurtleTripanInfinite 😁 I had a friend through school who’s parents used to say very similar about his Autistic younger brother 😁 he outsmarted us all by a clear mile and was hugely creative from a very young age! He’s now almost 30, works in a great job for the local council and is really involved in local musical theatre productions 😊 he’s a really lovely boy. Still absolutely the most intelligent person I’ve met 😁

Well can she play the violin? My sons did at 2 and could articulate emotion verbally and through their performances

Maybe a little. My son is very verbal and could do full sentences at two and articulate himself really well. I don’t think he’s gifted, just talking is his early strength. They pretty much all level out by school.

I’m sure my DS was gifted. He can read by 2 years old. Properly reading. Turns out he got really good memory. Not gifted but just very good memory 🤣. He is clever in school though but not genius level clever.

This! It sounds completely normal OP.

He 'was' gifted and now he isn't? Must be clever to go to school at two, does he go on the 'bus :-)?

Sorry, couldn't resist. All tongue in cheek (as no doubt yours was).

Mine was a very clever child and does have some gifts but we never went on about it, just encouraged and let him get on with it. He wasn't the only one at school who had those qualities (& he hated school, as did I), there were a few who were outstanding, all still close friends.

When the op's little one goes to school she will see that other children can do the same as hers, some even more, and those that can't do anything much at the start often turn out to be very successful.

However it sounds as though she is off to a good start. Good luck op.

Too little to go on.
It sounds like she’s doing well.