Moody teenager

[Mummajak]

Need some advice pls my daughter is 16 and suffering low mood since 13yrs old, I’ve spoken to her lots of times and she just says she doesn’t know why but just hates everything and everyone and feels angry all the time, she’s absolutely vile to us in public and home and no amount of being gentle , understanding or telling off and punishments change anything we’ve tried every angle possible. Thinking of getting her in to see a GP she doesn’t want to see the school counsellor. Anyone else struggling with the same issues ?

My DD won’t see any counsellor, but did agree to see the GP.
Is it all the time or period related ?

it used to be worse around her periods but now it’s all the time ☹️

Does your daughter have friends? Hobbies? What does she enjoy? How is she in school?

She’s popular and has lovely friends, no hobbies apart from being attached to her phone, she does love to watch her younger sister play footie every sat and she comes with us to villa matches occasionally. Lots of contact with family which she loves being around. She hates school and find concentration difficult but now has a place at college so I’m hoping that might make a diff

Please call the GP today. 3 years is a long time in the life of a teen to be suffering

What did the gp recommend please if you don’t mind me asking ?

Buy her some teen workbooks online from Amazon. A mindfulness book and a teen mood tracker. Help her understand herself and what makes her feel better or worse.

Also talk to GP with her, make a list of things she wants to say to GP beforehand

what has she got planned for college? A levels? Is it just going to be more of the same, not ideal if studying isn’t her thing.

has she had careers advice to look at what careers she would be best suited to and differing routes to careers. Apprenticeships or nvqs through workplace or T levels in college

what are her interests? Could you help her exercise regularly. Walking, cycling, Zumba or Pilates together. What about crafts or art? Cooking and tv series together. I’d also recommend meditation. do her friends have hobbies she could join.

eat all meals with family or friends. Avoid elongated times in bedroom

No screens an hour before bed, good sleep hygiene.

down load headspace app to use

Various help lines - young minds

counselling

Hi I am only a few years older than your daughter yes it could be worth contacting your GP but that is some what normal behaviour for a teenager I was the exact same for my parents only now I’m older I realise also it could be something in her life going on falling out with friends,relationships all that type of stuff could be anything kids only let you know so much

I went through this as a teen. I do have chronic anaemia so have been on and off iron all my life, but at 17 I finally went to the GP for antidepressants. It was the stepping stone I needed to pull myself out of the long slump.

I also quit school and started working, and got a new hobby that I really enjoyed. But I would recommend antidepressants to help. They aren't the final answer, but it definitely would have been a lot harder without them.