Baby in own room

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What ages did people put baby in their own room? The reason I'm asking...

DS is 10 months. Still in with us. OH is pestering that he should be in his own room now. Other family members p**ing me off with comments about it too. MIL keeps saying the longer you leave it the more aware he will be and the harder it gets. I'm delaying his independence apparently and waking him up.

The reason I'm hesitatant - 4/7 nights he sleeps through 7-5/6. 2 nights he wakes maybe once. Usually scrambling to find his dummy. Quick hand in the cot to help him grab it sorts it out and off we all quickly go back to sleep. 1/7 he may have a shit night. Teething, cold etc.

It's quite selfish but am I really depriving him or doing something stupidly wrong leaving him in with us?! We don't co sleep.

I'm rambling now. What I'm looking for is just ages you put them in their own room. Did you regret doing it too soon/too late? And why

I agree on longer they stay with you more difficult it gets.
I moved my baby into her room at 6 months which I consider late already. Where I'm from the babies go into their room straight away, and they much better sleeper. I followed UK guidelines (I'm a very anxious person and I was /still am terrified of sids) but she became very attached and aware of her surroundings by 6 months already.
We had the same issue with the dummy, so I ended up putting 6 into her cot so she managed to find one by herself and I didn't need to wake up to place it back into her mouth.

I think you can keep the baby into your room as long as you want but eventually you have to go through the difficult times anyway. You can delay it, that's your decision but it won't get easier.
My advice is not to time on the baby needs but on yours. It will be the same for them but how you deal with this is important for you and for the baby's sake. We made the move when my husband was off from work so I didn't had to get up every two hours; we took turns. I say prepare for the worst, but your baby might surprise you 😏

I moved DS at 2 and DD at 11 months. Both have always been fine in own rooms since then. There's no rush.

I agree on longer they stay with you more difficult it gets.
I moved my baby into her room at 6 months which I consider late already.

I mean, how would you know?!

Anyway. Mine was with me until 18 months purely because I didn't have another room to move her to. No problems transitioning when the time came.

3 months when he grew out of moses basket

Just catching up on this thread now!

We have our first night with our 5m 2w old being in her own room tonight. I am scared and apprehensive but it had to be done, we were waking her (husband is a bad snorer) and this led us to being awake longer. I feel guilty as it goes against the recommendations, but the more I led up to the plan of 6 months the more apprehensive I felt. So, we decided last minute and bit the bullet today!

I know I'll probably be awake checking on her constantly, but I do feel like it is the right decision for us.

Scary times!

Six months on both occasions. They slept through and we're noisy babies! We had video monitor and we were disturbing them.

Do what works for you.

This is what I did too. I found my children actually wouldn’t sleep in the same room at all.

My little girl’s 2 and a half and we just moved her a couple of months ago, mostly because I am pregnant and we wouldn’t fit 2 cots in the room! She slept through from 13 months and her sleep has been exactly the same in her own room as it was in hers, no issues transitioning at all. Just do it when it feels right for you and ignore anybody with other opinions, it you’re the one dealing with any night wake ups then it makes sense that you decide yourself what you want to do!

Mine is just over 2 years and we still co sleep. Occasionally I put him to bed in his own room and when he wakes up he comes into my room which I have never discouraged. But his Dad doesn't live with us.
We have not only recently weaned off breastfeeding to get to sleep. So I'm just glad about that for now and soon il try him again with own room.
If you are happy with current set up no need to change, is OH happy apart from he thinks baby "should" be in room? I would kindly suggest to him that if he wants baby to go in own room he should be the one to settle baby when they wake up in the night.

17 and 13 years ago they both went in their own room next to ours from birth. We all slept, they are still alive!

I put my babies in their own rooms as soon as they turned their first birthday. I breastfed for the first year, so really it was easier for early morning feed at 6-6.30am to just bring the baby into bed with me to feed them until their first birthday, then straight back into their cot to sleep. None of them seemed to mind going into their own bedroom. I used a baby monitor and often heard them babbling to themselves quite content.

None of mine had dummies.

I think it's fine to carry on as you are op. And you DO co sleep as sharing a room counts as that.

Do whatever you want, it’s not affecting the in-laws sleep so why should it matter to them! Can’t stand comments about things like that when it’s entirely up to the parent 🤦🏻‍♀️ My son was 8 months in the end up, we were getting building work done so he couldn’t move into his room before then but 6 months would have probably felt quite early to me. I think he probably did have a better sleep when in on his own and the room was completely dark so we didn’t have any issues changing him over, he didn’t seem to notice!

Mine was 18m - that was when their bedroom was ready after the ceiling came down in it (while it was empty I hasten to add). Mine continued to wake 3 times a night until she 2 it was a ball ache going in and kipping on the floor for those 6m between moving into own room and sleeping through.

DH wanted baby out much sooner. So DH went out in his own room instead 😆

11 weeks

Around 14 months for both. It's none of your MIL's business how you parent. Just smile and say "it works for us."

Has DH said why he wants baby to move? Have you explained that if LI wales and wants his sunny putting back in and he's in his own room, DH will be doing it?

3 months. When he started sleeping through, felt like the right time.

Coslept beyond a year, it was healthier and happier for us all.

Follow your instincts.

6 months and about 3 years. If I could go back I wouldn't put the oldest in own room so early, it was exhausting for about 4 years, having to get up in the night to put him back to bed, sitting by bed to get him to sleep etc.