Good morning all
Looking for both a handhold and some advice.
My 10 week old only contact naps in the day. This is acceptable to me, she will nap just lying on me or in the sling so I'm able to rest or get stuff done as needed. She is still cluster feeding in the evening so goes to bed around 10pm and wakes up 3 times to feed and settles quickly. Morning wake up is about 630am but she will then nap on me for another 1-2hours. She is EBF.
For the past three days shes been fussy and CONSTANTLY on the boob. Even prior to this she still feeds every 1-2 hours in the day, although sometimes has a 2.5hour nap. No issues with supply, loads of wet/dirty nappies and gaining weight well. Tonight she hasn't slept and im currently pacing around my house with her in a sling and have been since 2am, cant sit down as she will wake up. Anyway I know babies do this sometimes but it's been hard these past few days.
My partner had 6 weeks off work which was great. We have no family support. Hes now back at work in a Big Job (e.g kind of like medical but not a surgeon) and works 9-5 with 2 days WFH. I would express milk so she could have the occasional bottle from DP but she's now decided she won't take a bottle or dummy and just screams until she has the boob. OK fine, I can manage this. What I'm irritated by is my partners lack of enthusiasm to help. I constantly have to ask 'please take her so I can go to the toilet alone' 'please take her so I can wash my hair for the first time in a week'. He doesnt come look for us in the morning or after work. He was with me for the first 6 weeks. He knows how hard it is, and that it's 24/7 but now he's back at work he seems to have slipped into 'I work, you do baby'. He comes home and works on his hobbies for hours. He goes to bed late as he is obsessional with hobbies to some degree and then complains he is tired. I don't want to stop him from doing his hobbies but he has a CHOICE to have loads of sleep, as I do all night waking. It upsets me more because he often makes things within his hobbies for me/DD but it's often not something I want/need and is tatty, so it makes me feel sorry for him as its endearing. I have said what I would appreciate is more practical help with baby and to TIDY UP after himself as his hobbies encroach the house until I remind him to put things away.
I've asked multiple times if he can take her for a few hours one weekend morning (she's fairly settled in the morning) so I can have a good nap, but somehow he always 'forgets' or 'didn't understand what you meant' or he is tired from being up late or his 'back hurts from using the sling'
Generally he is a good partner and has had to pick up cooking as I can't cook with baby on me, and he does bath time in the evening.
Anyway this was longer than intended but somewhat therapeutic. Am I expecting to much from DP now he's back at work? I know DD will settle again at some point but please reassure me.