I think I hurt my child wrist trying to so her teeth, feel like the worst mum

[Sophie1029734]

Hi everyone, my little girl is 3y 2m old. She was lying down as she usually does for me to go in and brush her teeth more thoroughly after she has a go. She just fought me a lot today so I held her wrists on her belly, not hard but it was the frolicking and yanking she was doing so I just stopped and tried to say, we need to keep teeth clean, let's do it together so she puts her hand on the brush and we do that.

Eventually we get it done and and I praise her etc
but she is now holding her wris and starts to cry. I immediately feel awful and ask her about it. She says she is hurting :( she is tierd and super cranky though so I get her down to sleep and hug her to give comfort.

Shes rewoke, still holding her wrist crying and telling me its hurting :((((((

After some convincing she moved her hand off it, her wrist doesn't look swollen or red but she is really sad about it. Won't lie on that side either

I feel like the worst mum in the world right now. Maybe I did hold her too tight, maybe I should've just been more patient. I'm not sure what's wrong her wrist, all I can come up with is a possible sprain.

We go on a holiday tommorow but if she needs the doctors I will drop it all and take her. Does anyone know what could wrong with her wrist?

You should take her to the hospital tomorrow and get an x-ray. My son fractured his wrist at age ten simply by rolling from an ottoman onto a shaggy carpet. He was watching TV at the time! He was in a lot of pain and crying so I knew something was wrong but there was hardly any swelling. He ended up in a cast for six weeks.

I've rang 111 and I was honest and now they are involving social services. Just everything today has been the worst day.
Not only that I've 2 laxatives before it all happened and I'm I'm the toilet not able to move off it, but I need to be there for 10.45 and its a 20min drive.
I feel like the worst mum and now they assuming I've hurt her, and i can't sh!th!ng.

I'm gonna be late and now I have to tell them the reason. 😟

I would call ahead and tell them you will be late

Are you going the hospital or to social?

Hospital, just about to arrive at the a and e deperatment in 2 mins. I'm feeling really stressed because I know it looks bad but I can vouch for myself that I didnt hold her hard, now revisiting it in my head and letting myself relax it truly was an accident and a mixture of her force and me trying to stop her hitting me away. No matter tho, I feel guilty and It's not nice haveing everyone around me and the doctors now questioning my ability as a mum because I'd never lay a finger on her.

Just be honest and say you were holding her wrists to brush her teeth and she was struggling. Personally I would have tried gently turning her hand so it was like she was turning a door knob as one of my kids had joints that would slightly dislocate (sublaction or something?) and this often clicked things back into place... But now you're there just be honest as you haven't done anything wrong.

Oh gosh don’t feel bad!! I have to pin my 2.5yr old down to brush her teeth as quite often she simply won’t open her mouth and it would hardly ever get done otherwise. I try and be as careful as I can not to hurt her but she does flail around kicking so it could just as easily have happened to me.

She went from being unable to move her hands ir her fingers, to sitting in the waiting ro moveing everything, playing etc and now saying no it's not her wrist its her belly

I am sure you're intentions were all good, but dont fight a 3yr old like this to force teeth cleaning on them. Its horrendous!

Just explain what happened. It was an accident. Hospital have to inform social services. Doesn't mean anything bad is going to happen. Hope you're okay. Just be honest. X

I wouldn't worry about ss. This is very low level and it's right that they should be informed as it's about your child's best interests. But it won't flag as a concern as a isolated incident. Best to be honest too as would be suspicious if you lied

Clean teeth are non negotiable as decayed teeth and fillings would be much worse for the child.
Lots of parents have to hold their child firmly to brush their teeth.

Please don't feel bad OP, clean teeth were a non-negotiable when my dc were little. My eldest fought me so hard, after he booted me in the stomach at 8 months pregnant, after that I used to have to sit on him. We got through it. He's a teenager now who happily cleans his own teeth. Hospital, social services will have to check out the story because of what happened but I'm sure nothing will come of it.

If you are still around OP - what was the outcome with your daughters wrist?