DD says another child urinated on her at preschool

[Pandamother]

What do I about this - should I contact Ofsted? I am horrified that this could have happened to my little daughter.

DD is no longer at the setting, we pulled her out a while back as she became very unhappy after moving to the preschool room. It was clear that the setting was experiencing some issues and I was not confident she was recieving adequate care.

My daughter has suspected autism and although she is very bright, she has some communication issues around expressing when she upset/ when something has happened etc. It makes her vulnerable and that was another reason we pulled her out. So it took a while for her to open up about some of things that had made her unhappy at preschool. She has previously mentioned a mean child that pushed her.

Now she has told me that another child deliberately urinated on her at preschool. She was so upset when she talked about it that I am inclined to believe her, but also incredulous that this could really have happened when staff are supposed to be looking after her.

Why is this relevant? I don't want to include details that will identify the my daughter on MN.

I did not move her to another preschool, she is at home with me now.

It was several months ago she left.

She says she was having snack. They do this at a bench. It is feasible that another child could have climbed on the bench, but does seem unlikely.

She has not told me about it 'in great detail'. When she mentioned someone had weed in her mouth, I questioned her about it as I thought she must be mistaken or miscommunicating.

She told me that she did tell me about it at the time, but I don't remember that at all. There was certainly a time when she came home and started telling us 'Im going to wee in your mouth/ on your face' but I thought that was normal toddler toilet humour.

I would suggest that nobody posts on this thread, as it's clearly been started by a creep looking for some stories to salivate over. Fucking disgusting.

How do I ask MN to move this to parenting or childcare and to verify I am a long time post@mnhqer?

I've reported my thread and asked MN to move it to somewhere other than chat and verify my history as a genuine poster with a child.

When I initially posted I was accused of overreacting. When I posted more details I was accused of being a pervert troll...

When he was in reception my DS told me that the toilets were broken and all the reception children had to go to the toilets in bins.

He also told me that when it rained the playground flooded, and the only children allowed out to play were the ones who could swim.

I know the school did have problems with the toilet plumbing, and also with water coming in on one part of a class room, but I didn't think for one moment that they were using bins for toilets and swimming in the playground.

There'll be some sort of truth at the heart of what your DD says, but as she's so young you need to treat her as an unreliable narrator. Maybe the experience of having wet clothes having wet herself, got mixed up with another child upsetting her somehow?

Very weird thread.

Hello @Pandamother we're going to move your thread to Parenting now.

While we can't ever vouch for any poster, the OP has been around for a while now without causing concern. Please bear in mind that troll hunting breaks our guidelines - if you have suspicions, report to us.

What the point of reporting if when a poster has ‘been around for a while’ it makes you believe this is in anyway a normal thing.

You do realise that trolls can start accounts, post innocuous shit for ‘a while’ and then post this stuff.

In fact, it gives them better results as they’re believed, instead of mumsnet using their common sense to think ‘what’s the likelihood of this actually being real’.

Not just this thread, there’s been a few lately where posters with posting history, have post obviously untrue stuff.

I would contact NSPCC for advice.

Because I'd be concerned about what's she's saying with regards something may have happened in another context even if not as she reports at nursery.

There's no chance that something could have happened in another context, but I think contacting NSPCC for advice is a good idea.

I've looked at their website and they actually have a dedicated number for parents and teachers concerned about incidents that have happened in an educational setting.