No day off together

[Vimto1991]

Just curious if anyone’s navigated parenting a one year old with their partner but no day off together? Originally I was going back to work and working around my partners shifts but we’d still have Sundays off together. He got made redundant and has found a job, but since the shifts aren’t as flexible, we’ve had to settle to me going back two full shifts which are his days off, leaving us with no time together as a family.
i worry it could affect my lg if she’s not going places as a family, and constantly just doing something with a lone parent.

She'll be fine. As long as she's getting good care from you both she's far too young to realise you aren't making outings as a threesome.

One year olds are so adaptable and she'll love the days with you and the days with her DF.

Thanks guys, we will try and do so many activities with her so she’s not stuck in the house. Hopefully she’ll enjoy herself! When we can get childcare we can work on our shifts at work to try and get one day off together at some point in the distant future. 😂

It will definitely make you appreciate any time off that you do have together. Are you able to plan any holidays?

We have an idea what weeks we will have off together, so I agree, we’ll treasure those days way more now! Probably should plan actual trips and make sure we aren’t just sat at home for those days!

Yep, we had this with our kids from the get go right through primary. DH and I both stayed at home with the kids by working full time but opposite days and shifts to each other. Any overlap while kids were awake were taken with me getting a few hours sleep ready for night shift. Early on his holidays were basically spent taking a month off when I was due to give birth and looking after others while I was in hospital with a new addition (no paternity leave for dads at the time). Then school years we took holidays at different times to cover school holidays between us. We would take one family holiday every 3 years. Doesn’t seem to have hurt our kids any.

Oh wow! Kudos to you that sounds like it would have been hard work on your relationship but the kids always had a constant parent to watch and do stuff with so it does pay off to do it in the end. I’m hoping to get more hours eventually so we’ll see how we go!

We have this. It’s hard but I think harder on me than our DS. Hopefully it’ll change when he’s a bit bigger but for now he’s such a mummy’s boy when I’m around he doesn’t want his dad, so it’s actually nice for them to have time without me there to bond more.
But I think for us it’s hard. Everyone gets so excited for the weekend but for me it just means my partner is working and everyone else is busy having family time, so we’re all alone!