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3 year old won’t stay in bed

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OxfordshireMum2 · 24/03/2023 06:36

My LO has always been an amazing sleeper, but after his sibling was born last summer he started waking in the night (expected with a newborn next door) and wanting my husband in his room. At first it was once or twice a week around 2/3am, after putting him back to bed a couple of times my husband would then end up sleeping in LO’s bed with him if he woke again, just so we all got some sleep.
Fast forward 6 months, baby is sleeping through in his own room but 3, almost 4 year old is waking every single night around 10:30/11pm and won’t settle unless husband sleeps in his bed with him. We’ve tried putting him back in his room but he cries to the point he is almost sick, only solution is to co sleep. He grinds his teeth and fidgets so much in his sleep that whoever ends up in his bed doesn’t get much sleep at all.
We’ve tried ignoring him for a few mins, sticker charts, even new toy bribery but nothing works. He gets so upset, which breaks my heart, but husband and I would really like to be in our own bed together especially now baby is sleeping all night. Any ideas or do we just have to wait for him to grow out of it?

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Letsbekindplease · 29/03/2023 08:47

Sympathies. I have a similar situation but our 10 month is cosleeping and now nearly 4 year old is in with us most nights. No idea how to solve it but we’re going to be quite strict when it comes to transitioning them into their new bedrooms. Current work underway to have our spare room for our nearly 4 year old and baby will have his old room.
I know we’ve created this situation and it won’t be easy to fix.

is he better in your bed rather than his own bed ?

OxfordshireMum2 · 29/03/2023 11:27

he sleeps absolutely fine when one of us is with him. I’m debating letting the 2 of them share a room when 6mo is a bit older as it seems he just doesn’t want to sleep alone, might be a bit of separation anxiety since his sibling arrived. I know it won’t last forever and like you say, it’s a habit we’ve created, it’s just not ideal

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