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Bathroom privacy

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Sam1066 · 23/03/2023 22:20

I have 2 sons 7 &17, my bathroom and toilet are combined and my shower curtain is non transparent. My partner thought it weird and strange that I would call my 17 year old to talk about something quickly through the door slightly open whilst the shower curtain was pulled across and none of my body to be seen. I found this really offensive. I told him once that my 17 year old was desperate for a wee so he quickly came in, use the loo ( again with the shower curtain pulled right across) and left. Im finding it hard that he thinks this is weird and not right. Opinions please?

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DragonbornMum · 24/03/2023 06:30

I'm sorry: I think this is weird

lillie23 · 24/03/2023 06:37

I cannot see anything weird about this. He cannot see you in the shower so I don't see the problem.

Inthesky42 · 24/03/2023 06:37

FWIW I don't think this is weird at all. Speaking as someone who's mum used to walk around completely naked for the entire time I lived at home. I don't see anything wrong with it.

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Sam1066 · 24/03/2023 07:49

Hi I'm just trying to work out why it's weird if no body parts are actually on display , just voices. What bits about it do you find weird pls ?

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Marblessolveeverything · 24/03/2023 07:56

It's really a personal boundaries issue. What some people are comfortable with is full on nudity and giving no cares others locked doors taps running never seen without being fully dressed.

As long as people's choices are respected then no issue.

hotdiggetydog · 24/03/2023 08:12

Your husband thinks it is an invasion of privacy because it absolutely is. Especially for the 17 year old son. He doesn't want mummy dearest interrupting his "me time" in the shower.

Barring a house fire, I'd suggest you just wait.

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Sam1066 · 24/03/2023 08:18

You missread, he is not in the shower I am and he used the toilet for a wee because he was desperate and the shower curtain is non transparent

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hotdiggetydog · 24/03/2023 08:27

Sorry for misunderstanding!

What was so urgent that couldn't wait?

thedogsmum · 24/03/2023 11:26

I have no problem with this - either a quick question a crack in the door or an emergency wee. We do the same in my family, I don't think it's over stepping boundaries at all.

saltwater1985 · 25/03/2023 06:42

We're not at all uptight in this family!
My 17 yo (DD not DS) will have a Botha with the door open, me and she's siblings would wander in and out.
I have yet to have a bath without a DC hopping in (DS 9 and DD 6).

Dcs go to the loo while I'm in the shower regularly, my only request is that they don't flush as it takes the hot water!

Nudity is absolutely not an issue here. Nobody just strolls about nude, but when changing/bathing etc it's not hidden.

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