Hello All,
This is my first thread and post as well.
I have 4 years old boy who just turned 4 this month. He goes to the nursery and very happy kid. He is our only kid and we are the family of 3 only. (Mum, dad and my boy)
Recently we started teaching him how to color the book using crayons and he just wouldnt pay attention to what we (me and my Mrs) were teaching / showing him. He doesnt want to write anything like alphabets etc. He couldnt even hold pen / crayon color in the fingers, before we say that his fingers may not have developed, he can smash a flimsy toy with just fingers so his fingers are strong for sure. If we are giving him instructions e.g. about how to play with remote car, how to play with hotwheels cars he just wouldnt pay attention and would do what he thinks is right and if we try to correct or show him then he would just get angry on us and throw tantrum. I am really getting worried as a father. If he continues to do that how would he be able to cope when he goes to reception? Even nursery teacher told us that he doesnt pay any attention in the class but in the group activities he excel fine. His motor skills are very good too.
How can we as parent improve this? We had a bit of heated argument with him couple of days ago when we forced him to paint a picture using crayons, this resulted in crying episode and now he wouldnt even hold simple pen in his hands.
He is very sharp though, we are from non English speaking background and he adapted to the Nursery very well and now he answers in English if we speak in our mother tongue. He knows all the colors, around 10-15 countries flags, recognizes almost every car brand through the logo and even recognizes the car brand on the UK roads just by looking at the tyre or shape of the car (this really amazes me!) He learnt all this from youtube. One more thing I noticed is, he remembers where he kept XYZ thing. If I give a thing to him and ask him where it is if I am unable to fine. He will just show it where it is kept.
I am really confused as a parent on what I am doing wrong. I dont want him to fall behind everyone to think he doesnt know anything.
I am really worried for him, if he is not paying attention now then how would he pay attention to whatever being taught in the school. Isnt paying attention is basic to learning in school?
Thank you for reading this long post.
Hoping to have some replies on this topic which has made me to lose my sleep.
Thank you.