How do you decide whether to have another child?

[mrssunshinexxx]

Don't know if strangers on the internet can help with this but I have 2 young children and just find myself constantly thinking about. Third the do I / don't I want another child and weighing it all up. So many people say you'll never regret having another .
I guess my worries are that I've been so lucky to have two healthy children and pregnancies and I'm scared my luck has ran out what if something bad happened , not that this is bad at all but I worry about a multiple pregnancy . I hVe had 2 bad labours ending in EMC.

My marriage is good for the most part , money or space not an issue but I lost my mum 3 years ago and don't speak to my dad so support is very low.

I just knew I needed a third. There was no reason other than really wanting more children. And now I want a 4th. Does your dh want another? If he does and you've got the space and the money, I think you should go for it.

He's quite happy either way but admits it's me it would really affect he works away and it's me who has to carry and birth and breast feed then effectively do majority of raising he or she 😆

Bump

There are lots of threads on this and I must have read all of them. But for us the idea of a third never went away and in the end that won out over all the very sensible reasons not have another one, many of which you mention. We didn’t want to always wonder what if and were fortunate that our house and finances allowed for a third. As soon as he was out I knew I was done and have never for a second wondered about whether to have a fourth. That was the certainty I was hoping for and never had after my second. It’s a lot of work though and we have no family support, so you need to be a rock solid team going into it. Your husband will find himself doing a lot. Or if the majority will fall to you, as you say above, that would be hard!

I know of a couple whose third child, although delightful, has a serious condition which is incurable. (Think major transplant). They can't easily work because they have to care for him, and they have two older dc to think of. It's rare, but it happens.

@Himawarigirl I'm used to doing it alone with no help hes obviously great when back on a weekend but yeah through the week it's just me , kind of feel like having a new born and 2 in school would be easier than what I've just done but time will tell! It's so tricky, I don't want to regret not having one more

@bellocchild definitely not impossible Isit 😞

I think having a newborn and two in school would be very doable, much easier than a toddler and a newborn! I had a school child, a toddler and a newborn and I would really have struggled without dh.

I had a newborn and two in school and definitely found it easier than a newborn and a toddler.

Thanks @Peppadog @Himawarigirl yeah agree think it would be much easier than what I've just done but do I want to go back to the start all together, lots to think about x