No copying at 12 months

[First time mom.]

Just after some advice or anyone in the same situation.
Very emotional at the moment, struggling to see friends with babies.
My 12 month old isn't copying anything I am doing. He doesn't wave, clap or point and doesn't even seem close despite me waving and clapping with him ALOT for the past few months. He just always looks away at something else. He doesn't seem interested.
When seeing other people with babies, their babies have been clapping for months and most are waving with some even saying a few words.
My baby says dada, baba and yaya but no words.
I do put Ms Rachel on, sing if your happy and you know it clap your hands. If I hold his hands together to clap them he gets frustrated and pulls away.
The more I teach him, the more upset i am becoming. I have his health visitor check up next week and I literally think I might burst into tears when I walk in the room, I am dreading it.
He will hold two cups together and bang them together every so often.
He is standing unaided and I think will walk in the next month so no concerns there.
He will pick things up and put them in a box but won't bring me toys.
He will look to where I am pointing. He will respond to come here and No and responds to his name.
But I just cannot see him doing any of these gestures any time soon and he is just not bothered. I tried sticking my tongue out to him earlier and he just tried to touch mine, rather than copy.
Not really sure what I want out of this post but I just feel like I need someone to talk to as all I ever see on mumsnet is babies who have done these things before 12 months and I don't feel I have anyone to discuss with, without judgement. Partner is abit worried but not as much as me

If anyone has a child who did these things after 12 months and is now happy and healthy, please give me some reassurance. However, if anyone feels that this is concerning is rather know the truth. Any health visitors out there who can advise? I thought about ringing them but they would just say to wait for full assessment next week I thought. But a week of no sleep and constant worry is draining.

So sorry for the long post and if you got to reading this far. Thank you so much

@scousemouse92 thank you! That’s reassuring. Mine definitely has a speech delay (he’s babbling but not a ton) but we are getting an eval for that soon. He does all the other things you mentioned. However, with social smile, he doesn’t do it every single time. He smiles at us plenty, but mostly when we are playing games. I feel like he doesn’t always just smile at us automatically when we smile at him. But if we are playing with him he’s all smiles. Or if he does something he’s proud of he smiles at us.

Hi, I now you made this post long time ago...but I really hoppe you see my message...my son is 11 months now and exacly like yours...Could you let me know how is your son doing now? Hope everything is ok 🙏

Hey!
my child had a speech delay and an issue with confidence - only just started speaking in front of people at age 3 and still quite shy but has caught up with his peers now and you wouldn’t know he was ever delayed in this area. Good luck with everything.