please tell me im not the only one who finds this fucking miserably dull a lot of the time

[kheo]

or am I just awful?

baby four months. What’s sad is that he’s not even that difficult compared to what I’ve heard. But fucking hell, the batting arms around when feeding, the wresting the head back and forth, the sick often almost straight after, the hysterical crying over essentially nothing (yes I know it’s something in baby world). The constant nappy changes.

I love him and there are good times of course but god.. I worked in a very demanding job and frankly I have never felt this bored in my life. Please tell me I’m not alone. Urgh fed up today.

You’re not the only one. That’s why I went back to work quite quickly with mines.
Not everyone enjoys the baby stage!

On the other side, I loved the child and <gasp> teenage years.

You’ve got to add some other stuff into your day, even if it’s just going to a nice coffee shop with friends, the library or a gallery. My baby seems to enjoy getting out and about too he takes it all in.

No it's brutal, I remember that feeling, like being stuck on a hamster wheel. I couldn't wait to get back to work!.

The feeding difficulties maybe reflux/ wind aren’t something I’ve experienced, is your baby formula fed and could they have a sensitivity?

Good for you.

I hated almost every moment of the first 6 months.

Must be my fault given maternity leave is what you make of it.... 🙄

You’ve settled into a routine and it’s become monotonous. It gets more rewarding about 6m+

Yes , you're right. I absolutely hated the small baby stage. Came from a zingy world traveling job to relentless puke and poo and staring out of windows thinking 'what the hell have I done?'. Ten years later love the wee buggers and find the challenges much easier. Some people love the baby phase. I really didn't. Not saying it's all roses now but at least there's conversation involved. Hang in there.

You are 100% not alone. It’s hard, dreary, boring work. Relentless and repetitive. Your feelings are valid.

They're more fun later on.

I didn't mind the baby stage. I'm finding the toddler stage much worse. It's so boring and then the boredom is broken up by wrestling to change a nappy and the battle to get dc to eat and not just throw food all over the place. The day ends then with the battle to get dc to sleep. There are nice times but it's also so hard

It is a difficult stage. A while back now, for me.
I have a now thankfully vague memory of going to a baby and toddler group and another mother telling me i was taking my child to the wrong park. There was a better park, didn't I know.

Can't believe how many know it all mothers there were.

I found four months old a really tough age. Hang in there, it gets much better.

@Poepourri I only went to a baby and toddler group once and had a similar experience. Definitely not for me.

Totally agree!

Sorry, don’t understand this at all. I loved every minute, even with our second when I was knocking 40.

That’s me though. Do you have any support? Are you able to get any quality sleep? Makes a massive difference.

I am not a baby person. I thought I was before I had my own, but it rapidly transpired that I found it grindingly dull and claustrophobic. It improves massively when they are about 6 months and start turning into a person. Then around a year is when I found it started being properly fun. Hang in there!

Ugh, 4 months is tough. Enough non sleep to make you miserable without the leap that makes them easier and more interactive. I never found baby groups especially helped. It did help to spend time with family and others who loved baby too. Fwiw I have a 10 yo and 2yo and adore both of them and we’ve had loads of amazing times together.

I hated the first 6-9 months. babies are dull and it’s all so relentless and exhausting

I struggled with the monotony of the baby stage. I went from negotiating multimillion pound contracts to not being able to negotiate with a thing that was totally reliant on me. It’s so dull.

Toddler stage is so much fun compared to that. They have personality and can express themselves.

It’s such a cliche but - it is just a phase. Also at that age they’re small enough you can take them out to do things you want to do (wander round shops/get coffee/go to the pub) without having to do the horrors of soft play. I went to a few baby groups as “something” to do - some I hated (baby sensory) and some were amazing (local group held in our village church that was free coffee and cake and a chance for mums so meet/catch up).

It takes time to find your mum friends that you actually want to hangout with.

Try to find some time to yourself if you can. If you husband/partner/parents can take little one so you can get your hair/nails done or something like that- don’t feel guilty about wanting some time for ‘you’.