Drinking alcohol around children

[Bluestar27]

Is it reasonable to ask family members not to hold my baby if they’ve been drinking? Drinking to the extent they sometimes repeat themselves. A regular occurrence too. Feeling uncomfortable but don’t want to cause upset.

I had a colleague who was dropped on her head in a drunken piggy-back escapade, she got a concussion and was unwell for 6 months… only remembered it when I saw your comment.

OP not sure why you think what I said was patronising and to whom. It’s out of order to be dismissive to valid concerns with armchair diagnosis of anxiety.

Sorry 7worfs, my comment was directed at househokks!

totally your call. One or two wouldn’t bother me, but not if visibly drunk. Can’t be too precious as take mine to the pub a lot

the title of this post of very misleading.

It's perfectly reasonable to have that boundary IMO. My mother drank heavily around us when we were little (and still is a heavy drinker), I didn't want that for my children (as it wasn't a nice experience as a child) so when they were born I politely asked that she not drink heavily in front of the kids. One I don't mind of course.

@Bluestar27 Ah okay, that makes sense 🤭

In any case, I think nature has equipped us with good instincts, so anything that makes you uneasy around your baby, just don’t tolerate it. We all get to be PFB and we shouldn’t be apologising.

Until our children grow up, we are their protectors and advocates.

@Bluestar27 not trying to patronise you but you do sound overly anxious and just wondered if you suffer from anxiety to make a post about it - like others have mentioned it's not a big issue to some

Not unreasonable if you feel they present a genuine threat. If you are there to supervise and they are sitting down.....probably not a problem.

It is something that causes me concern which is why I was getting a feel for what others thought by posting on here. Whilst the response has mixed opinions I can see a lot of people agree with me so I don’t think I’m being overly anxious actually. I don’t think your comment was helpful nor did it answer the question from my original post.

I sometimes repeat myself even without alcohol!

Not ok to hold a baby when incapable for whatever reason.

Definitely ok to use antiperspirant when breastfeeding . I don’t use fragranced ones anyway.

I really can't remember if I wore deodorant whilst breastfeeding it was so long ago but I am comforted by the fact that my nipples are nearer my belly button than my armpits so that must have minimised any exposure.

I know it's not really related but the irony here tickled me a bit!
(For the record, you can of course have a no holding the baby rule and it's totally your call.)

Lol.

What tickled you, @ZeldaWillTellYourFortune ?